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My IC starts this morning.

Trouble is, I don't even know where to start. Usually have my head screwed on and held high, but I have a feeling it's going to be a washout:(

On the bright side, I'm getting a blood test this morning - being jabbed with a needle will be far more enjoyable

Your IC will help you with the starting point.

Good luck with all your appointments today.

I hated IC. Did me no good really. Waste if time and money.

I think it will be good for me.

It was like sitting with a real life SI forum wrapped into one

My IC has been really helpful. Probably one of my best investments I ever made.

We're quite lucky here - we get 6 sessions free on the NHS (although I have a feeling more than 6 will be needed!). The IC and I hit it off, she clearly has experience/expertise with addiction and it was really reassuring.

I had counselling a couple of years ago and it was extremely limited because at the time I had been led to believe that he'd only acted out the one time and the issues were, I thought, about me feeling in adequate, unloved, blah blah blah. Two years on, several OW on and a LOT of research on my part, it's a very different situation. Whilst my self esteem is pretty much back intact, I know I am grieving Big Time.

'Grief'. That's not a word you actually see/hear on SI much - but actually, it's pretty accurate

My first three sessions of IC were an assessment of who and where I am in life right now. The therapist asked questions, and I answered, and answered, and answered. Felt a little psychologically naked by the time it was all over. I am getting a lot out of it, so far. I need to understand lifelong patterns and why I am still in this marriage. How can I have put up with this? What I learn is going to allow me to either move on as a stronger person, or (somehow) absorb what has happened and make a decision to stay in the marriage.