Me 44 (BS) Him 52 (SAWH)
We're quite lucky here - we get 6 sessions free on the NHS (although I have a feeling more than 6 will be needed!). The IC and I hit it off, she clearly has experience/expertise with addiction and it was really reassuring.
I had counselling a couple of years ago and it was extremely limited because at the time I had been led to believe that he'd only acted out the one time and the issues were, I thought, about me feeling in adequate, unloved, blah blah blah. Two years on, several OW on and a LOT of research on my part, it's a very different situation. Whilst my self esteem is pretty much back intact, I know I am grieving Big Time.
'Grief'. That's not a word you actually see/hear on SI much - but actually, it's pretty accurate
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011
The truth hurts, but nowhere near as much as the lies
"Sounds harsh, but she's my wife and I'm supposed to be there when she's having sex" Sal1995