"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
Two mornings ago I told my husband that if we didn't go to MC or if something didn't change, that I needed to find another place to live. I told him I couldn't be treated like this any more.
He said that he didn't know how he was "treating" me.
I said that I do not exist in his life, that he lies to me and disrespects me.
He said "I told you I would see someone" and I replied that yes he did tell me that, but then he does nothing to set it up.
I told him that he used to be the one to threaten divorce, and that I didn't know why he stopped doing that, but that now, I can't stand to be around him any more. He said he would sleep elsewhere (Not infidelity related) and I said that he cold sleep whereever he wanted to, but that I was going to be out of town anyway. (Taking care of sick relative.)
So I did email the MC and we have an appointment for next Friday.
I am already nervous about it. I chose him because he does IMAGO therapy - also, he is a minister. His counseling is not faith driven, but I feel comfortable that he will understand us more because we are people of faith.
The IC says that in our initial meeting he will want to know :
1) what we each feel is the problem
2) about our childhoods
3) what he thinks he can do to help
I am already nervous about what to say. My mistake is to always say too much with too much intensity.
I am thinking about timing a Valium or Xanax into the morning so that it will kick in about the time of the session!
Just kidding - I think!
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy