anyway, i want will to go as he stated BUT I want some executive decision making in it. its my lawful right. siblings do not want that and per will thats non existent now states a sibling gets to make decisions. i want to do it with them. they wont allow it.
per interstate law, I get 100% with no will. you think they would make some compromise with me. im not even disputing money. Im standing up for my rights as his only child, which they hate.
my option is to stand up as child, and they fight me. or I stand down and I feel less of anyone important to him yet again. lawyers tell me to take all but thats not in my blood.
[This message edited by lifestoshort at 3:51 PM, January 15th (Wednesday)]
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
If you want to do something for your relatives after this is all settled, then you can. But right now you do need to stand up for yourself because no one else will.
I am sorry for the loss of your father.
If there are no children, then the estate usually defaults to any parent alive at the time of death. If no parents survive the decedent, then and ONLY THEN does the estate divide among the siblings.
It sounds like the estate is rightfully yours, and yours alone. I agree with the others - go NC with the siblings and inherit the estate that is rightfully yours. Should you CHOOSE to share anything with them, you can. But, you are under no obligation to.
It is in YOUR best interest to follow the law here. And I don't mean that in a materialistic way. If you start *giving away* what is legally/rightfully yours, there could be some pretty unfavorable tax consequences to you.
I don't see that you are being greedy, petty, or spiteful. I see THEM as being WAY out of line.
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
Please do not delete your post/s that is against the guidelines.
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
I just wanted to suggest that you get an estate attorney, forward your Dad's mail to your address, notify SS/retirement administrator, all bank and credit cards of his passing. If you don't know these, the mail will reveal it. He may have a safety deposit box at the bank. Once you establish yourself as executor, you can get access to all this. Our sister got to our Dad's before we arrived to his hometown/state and it was "empty"....
Death brings out the worst in people. It's frustrating watching the cockroaches come out and try to benefit off someone's death. All they should be doing is giving you support. Protect yourself and your rights. You know what your Dad wanted.
[This message edited by LisaP at 8:19 PM, January 15th (Wednesday)]
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