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LostSamurai (original poster member #41347) posted at 5:05 PM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
What the heck is going on?
My WW has been acting all nice and gushy with me lately? She called me last night and talked to me and said she loved me.
She told me where she was going today and then she was blowing kisses to me via facetime?
I have been detaching...I promise you that... not sure what is going on.
FEEDBACK..GO
I am the wandering samurai, and I found my freedom...
Razor ( member #16345) posted at 5:14 PM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
Could be good. Or maybe not.
Dont buy into it. Accept it. Smile. But dont let this penetrate. Hold to the 180.
Forgive and forget = Relive and regret.
Hope in reality is the worst of all evils because it prolongs the torments of man.
Friedrich Nietzsche
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:16 PM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
Could be your detaching is leading to some Hoovering. ETA: bumped the Hoovering thread for you. 
Keep on keeping on, Samurai.
[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 11:19 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)]
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
LostSamurai (original poster member #41347) posted at 5:43 PM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
I am. Last nights IC was so great I came out thinking he has confirmed to do the 180. No need to let her behavior decide who I am. I decide who I am.
She has to do what is necessary to get better, and I am responsible for my own healing.
I don't reach out to her, I let her contact me. If she wants to talk to me, let her make the move.
Why should I do anything, when I didn't do anything wrong.
ETA: Read it and I am keeping my guard up.
[This message edited by LostSamurai at 11:48 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)]
I am the wandering samurai, and I found my freedom...
Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 8:08 PM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
To me, that behavior is so maddening. I tell my ws, please pick a mood and stay with it for awhile. Either they want you or they don't...I.hate that mind game. Ignore than smother, be attentive, be distant..uggghh makes the head spin. Just stay on YOUR path LM. If its real, you will find out when your ready and she won't be bouncing back and forth. If she means it, she will be patient, if not, she will get irritated.
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
LostSamurai (original poster member #41347) posted at 8:26 PM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
Thank you. I appreciate it. I will stay the course.
I am the wandering samurai, and I found my freedom...
HoneyMe ( member #40613) posted at 8:57 PM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
Anyone can be remorseful for a short time. Now is the time to be patient and watch. Your love should be very hard to get right now. My fwh did come to full remorse, but I watched him and his behavior a long time. Good luck, stay strong.
3 A's
Blinded-sided DD 9/2011
Again 11/2011 and then more truth the next day. Separated 4 months. 2012, the year of truth and reconciliation.
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