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LostSamurai posted 1/15/2014 11:05 AM

What the heck is going on?

My WW has been acting all nice and gushy with me lately? She called me last night and talked to me and said she loved me.

She told me where she was going today and then she was blowing kisses to me via facetime?

I have been detaching...I promise you that... not sure what is going on.

FEEDBACK..GO

Razor posted 1/15/2014 11:14 AM

Could be good. Or maybe not.

Dont buy into it. Accept it. Smile. But dont let this penetrate. Hold to the 180.

nowiknow23 posted 1/15/2014 11:16 AM

Could be your detaching is leading to some Hoovering. ETA: bumped the Hoovering thread for you.

Keep on keeping on, Samurai.

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 11:19 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)]

LostSamurai posted 1/15/2014 11:43 AM

I am. Last nights IC was so great I came out thinking he has confirmed to do the 180. No need to let her behavior decide who I am. I decide who I am.

She has to do what is necessary to get better, and I am responsible for my own healing.

I don't reach out to her, I let her contact me. If she wants to talk to me, let her make the move.

Why should I do anything, when I didn't do anything wrong.

ETA: Read it and I am keeping my guard up.

[This message edited by LostSamurai at 11:48 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)]

Ostrich80 posted 1/15/2014 14:08 PM

To me, that behavior is so maddening. I tell my ws, please pick a mood and stay with it for awhile. Either they want you or they don't...I.hate that mind game. Ignore than smother, be attentive, be distant..uggghh makes the head spin. Just stay on YOUR path LM. If its real, you will find out when your ready and she won't be bouncing back and forth. If she means it, she will be patient, if not, she will get irritated.

LostSamurai posted 1/15/2014 14:26 PM

Thank you. I appreciate it. I will stay the course.

HoneyMe posted 1/15/2014 14:57 PM

Anyone can be remorseful for a short time. Now is the time to be patient and watch. Your love should be very hard to get right now. My fwh did come to full remorse, but I watched him and his behavior a long time. Good luck, stay strong.

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