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phmh (original poster member #34146) posted at 11:38 PM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
I read this at work today and thought it might be helpful for some to read:
http://www.fastcompany.com/3015486/how-to-be-a-success-at-everything/10-simple-science-backed-ways-to-be-happier-today
The 10 science-backed ways to be happier today (there is more info behind each of these at the link):
1. Exercise more
2. Sleep more
3. Move closer to work
4. Spend time with friends and family
In fact, one quote from #4 really struck me, so that I wrote it in my important quotes list that I keep at my desk:
"We are happy when we have family, we are happy when we have friends and almost all the other things we think make us happy are actually just ways of getting more family and friends." Daniel Gilbert
5. Go outside
6. Help others
7. Practice smiling
8. Plan a trip
9. Meditate - rewire your brain for happiness
10. Practice gratitude
I have incorporated most of these into my NB, but I'm going to work on incorporating even more!
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Married: 11 years, no kids
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notmeanymore ( member #9772) posted at 12:13 AM on Thursday, January 16th, 2014
Love this.
I can't do much about number 3 right now though!
"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers
IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 5:01 AM on Thursday, January 16th, 2014
Love this list and I can say from experience that I really enjoy spending the time with my family and friends now that I have the choice. 
Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
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Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 5:08 AM on Thursday, January 16th, 2014
So very true; happiness is a state of mind, not something to be quantified. You will find people who are happy because they have a cardboard box to live in. Conversely, you'll find people who are unhappy in mansions.
Rock on, phmh
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D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Bebba1171 ( member #33857) posted at 2:41 PM on Thursday, January 16th, 2014
Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 54Me) / XWW 52
Two great kids that don't deserve this!
Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 4:42 PM on Thursday, January 16th, 2014
Thanks for sharing this phmh!
I'm a bit in conflict over #3 and #4, my friends and family keep moving further from my work. I think I'm more inclined to be social when I live closer to my social circle so commuting one way or the other is inevitable unless I change careers or make new friends.
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 4:54 AM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
I think my XH was unhappy in our marriage because his commute to work was too long. He found a woman who lived near his job. 
I agree with all these things mostly. I live far from some of my jobs and I'm still happy.
I really love the work of Barbara Frederikson phd which is related. She studies the effects of certain practices on happiness and health. She has 2 books out and a website where you can track your ratio of positive to negative thoughts. You aim for 3 positives to one negative. Somehow she has found some scientific way to quantify this.
I think it's positivityresonance.com
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The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 4:55 AM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
double post
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BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
seekingright2013 ( member #37991) posted at 2:57 PM on Saturday, January 18th, 2014
Terrific post !!! Very inspiring. It's good for me to look at this list and think what I could be practicing on improving.
Also thanks @ IL for the positivity link :)
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