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It has only been about 3 weeks since my Dday. The week after I found out about the A, my WH contacted a MC for us to see. We have seen the MC 3 times. My WH was very remorseful and agreed to NC with the OW immediately. He gave me access to his phone and passwords. He even is starting another job mid-Feb. (The A was with a co-worker during their lunch hour).

My WH booked a cabin for us to go to this weekend. Is it too soon to have this romantic getaway? I feel like if I am being too "nice" that he will think what he did was not soo bad and that I am getting over it. We are trying to R and I do desire him despite what he did but at the same time I don't want to feel like a doormat. I struggle every other 5 minutes with images of what he did with her. I also don't really understand why he would have done this to me and my family so I can't forgive yet. It is early days.

Any advice from those that are on the road to R?

only you can decide if it's too soon or not. There's no right or wrong answer there .

If you decide to go, talk to you H about how you're feeling. Let him know that while you want to go, it by no means that all is forgiven or okay, and there's still a long road of healing ahead, but you will accept the time away with him. Discuss the fact that your emotions might change in the blink of an eye.. he can take this opportunity to reassure you and show that he is continuing to put you first. Talk about what his expectations are during the trip, and what the two of you will do if things take a turn.

It sounds like he's trying