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h0peless posted 1/15/2014 19:33 PM

My housing situation since getting divorced has been somewhat less than ideal. I had to live in the marital home for almost a year after Dday while it was on the market and then while we waited for the bank to approve the short-sale. After the house sold, I moved in with my brother and his fiance. We got along great and I really liked it there but it was a 30 minute drive across town to work. It was also tough because we each have two dogs and the girls weren't getting along. After a series of escalating fights where my dog was pretty seriously injured, I moved in with my Mom. I've been living here since August. My plan was to find a cheap place to live for a few years after I got back from my trip to Italy and live there while I saved up to buy another place.

Shortly before I left, I was talking to a friend of my brother's who I get along with pretty well about my situation and he told me that he was going to be looking for a new place right around the same time. We decided to get a place together and have been looking ever since.

We found a few good candidates this past weekend. One in a really cool historic neighborhood close to downtown, a small one in midtown and one that would have been perfect, a three bedroom, two bathroom with a pool near the University. Unfortunately that one had applications that had been approved and was all but off of the market.

Yesterday, my prospective roommate got a call from the realtor who was representing the landlords of the pool house saying that it was open. We toured it today and put in applications. We should know in a few days if we qualify. The place is awesome.

The only thing I don't like about the house is that the kitchen kind of sucks. The oven/range looks like it's from the '70s and there is no dishwasher. Otherwise, the place is great. Hardwood floors, a good sized back yard with a pool (which is a HUGE bonus in Arizona, especially since the landlords pay a pool service to take care of it), it's close to a park that will be nice to walk my dogs around, it's within walking distance of the University so I can catch a Football game or a basketball game if I manage to find tickets... Best of all, with a roommate, it costs less per month than some of the crappy apartments and guest houses I've been looking at.

I've been feeling like it might be time to dip my toe in the dating waters recently. I felt like I needed to not be living with my mother to do that. This really feels like the flower of my new beginning starting to blossom.

newlysingle posted 1/15/2014 19:44 PM

Congratulations! I hope you get the house.

IrishLass518 posted 1/15/2014 22:40 PM

Congrats and house mojo for you

Sad in AZ posted 1/15/2014 23:00 PM

This is great news. You know, you can buy your own stove and store the existing one. I did this when I rented my house in Phoenix in 2012--with one caveat--if you live in the hood, make sure the stove is protected from drive-by shootings!

I had the installers put the old stove in my storage room under my carport, thinking I would have it reinstalled when I moved. A few days later, I went to the storage room, and there was glass all over the floor. I was nonplussed--then I saw the broken stove door! As I was absorbing this, the storage room door shut behind me--and a pinpoint of light shone in. Someone had shot a bullet through the door which hit the stove, shattering the glass! If I had been resourceful, perhaps I could have found another door in a salvage yard, but I wound up leaving my new stove in the house.

h0peless posted 1/20/2014 20:04 PM

We've been approved! I'll finally be out of my Mom's house at the end of the month. I hope I never have to hear her and her husband having sex again.

jjsr posted 1/20/2014 20:31 PM

You could always buy a portable dishwasher at Sears. That would solve one of your dislikes. Ask the landlord about a new stove. Use the "green" reason saying the old stove would use much more electricity.

[This message edited by jjsr at 8:32 PM, January 20th (Monday)]

h0peless posted 1/20/2014 20:39 PM

The portable dishwasher idea is actually a really good one. I'll have to see if there is enough room for one when we move in. The stove appears to be functional but it's ugly. The place is going to be a rental for a couple of bachelors. It'll be fine as long as I can cook.

I'm really excited. It's a five minute drive from my work and about a block (easy walking distance) from a stop on the streetcar system that's being installed and should be operating this summer, which means easy access to the social scene downtown without having to park and have a designated driver.

nowiknow23 posted 1/20/2014 20:47 PM

Congratulations!

I hope I never have to hear her and her husband having sex again.

littlefoggy posted 1/20/2014 20:54 PM

Congrats!!!

I had a portable dishwasher in one of my little crappy apartments in college.

Cute little counter-top thing that held about 2 plates and a cup.

Worked well for what it was.

[This message edited by littlefoggy at 8:55 PM, January 20th (Monday)]

h0peless posted 2/6/2014 22:15 PM

I'm spending my first night in the house. Just laying in bed, listening to my dogs snore. I'm on my tablet tethered to my phone because the cable isn't turned on yet. This place is awesome. The dogs are a little freaked out but they love the yard.

I love how things have turned around in so many ways. I still feel pretty wounded a lot of the time but mostly, I am OK. I never would have though it a year ago.

JessicaFL127 posted 2/6/2014 22:35 PM

Awesome! And ew to your mom.

Shockleader posted 2/7/2014 15:42 PM

I still feel pretty wounded a lot of the time but mostly, I am OK. I never would have though it a year ago.

Same here feeling about how much can change in a year, and much good luck sent. Amazing what some time away from the toxic exWW can do, and boy has dating made me feel a lot more "normal". I hope you dip your toes, and enjoy the experience hanging out with a quality, sane, well adjusted person. It has done wonders for me.

Again good luck, and glad to see another SI person move along with their lives in a positive direction, after such a terrible ordeal.

Sad in AZ posted 2/7/2014 15:53 PM

Getting out of my mom's house was what I needed to heal. Having my own place with my dogs was absolute heaven.

kernel posted 2/7/2014 19:25 PM

Congrats! Sounds like things are really going your way - hope it continues!

h0peless posted 2/7/2014 21:22 PM

I love it here so far. The neighborhood is on the National Register of Historic Places and it made for an awesome dog walk after work this evening. There is a pretty little park just a few hundred feet from the house and tons of awesome, interesting historic homes. I even saw a few Cottontails, which I wasn't expecting to see in the middle of the city. My city has a pretty awesome food truck scene and they had a roundup tonight in the parking lot of my favorite used book store which also happens to be within easy walking distance. I almost have to pinch myself.

[This message edited by h0peless at 9:23 PM, February 7th (Friday)]

h0peless posted 5/12/2014 23:02 PM

Time for a necrobump! Apparently the owner has decided to sell the place and a realtor is coming over tomorrow to take pictures. I somehow have to arrange my life around getting my two dogs out of the house every time someone wants to come over and see it. FML.

Amazonia posted 5/13/2014 03:11 AM

Google to see if your city has an office of tenant rights.

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