If I lived alone, I wouldn't be looking to anyone to appreciate my efforts. So why is having my husband's appreciation so important - and lets face it - not getting it can become a source of friction.
But you would be appreciated, but from yourself.
I think the other ingredient is respect.
When you live alone, you are only cleaning up your own messes. When you live with someone (i find especially with a spouse), you will start to have to clean up their messes too.
You are not the only one in the shower, the tub, on the toilet. You are not the only one eating, drinking, and making food. You are no longer the only one in the living room and bedroom - and you have more then just your clothes to clean.
The bar is a beast - i mean, beyond a beast. If you were in his shoes, you wouldn't want to clean or anything either. The bar is pretty much a life changing test.
If his habits don't change after he takes the test, then i would have a chat. Otherwise, don't overwork yourself.