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User Topic: Thoughts on the polygraph test
cannibal
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Default  Posted: 2:19 AM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I recently got fwso to agree to a polygraph. I talked to the operator the other day and got a few questions answered. Now I would like to get your feelings about them.

I have written up a list of questions to ask. Should I go over them with fwso before we go?


Me: BF 35 Her: FWF 35 dss: 17
D-day: 06/06/04. Ons
D-day: 02/28/13. length of A: 4+ months
Seperation after dday
Moved back in 6/20/13
Broke n/c: 07/24/13
Together since: 02/05/02

Posts: 95 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: cannibal
lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NononononononoNO! Don't give him the opportunity to work out answers. If he's sociopathic enough, he may be able to fool the system. Bring him in cold.


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


Posts: 7400 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
Tred
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Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Should I go over them with fwso before we go?

In most polygraph exams, the questions are read to the person before being hooked up to the machine. Generally there aren't any answers to work out - the questions should elicit a yes or no response. Like, have you ever jumped out of an airplane? It's not ambiguous and doesn't leave a lot of room for evasion. If you want to prep him, it will give him a chance to come clean prior to the exam. Of course, even if it elicits a confession, you still want to go through with it to make sure that it's the entire confession. Good luck.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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Bigger
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cannibal

Has the operator gone over the list with you? Did you create the questions with the operator; did he edit them in any way or go over them BEFORE you meet with your husband?
If not then PLEASE look at his credentials.

This issue was addressed a couple of days ago. See what’s written in this thread:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=518889&HL=8354


"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus

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nick1234
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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I looked into it and would still like to do it but around here its like $600 for it and I dont have that right now.

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Dyinghere
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Where do you go to get one?




Posts: 132 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: the inside of my head
cannibal
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Default  Posted: 3:47 AM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just did a Google search and got a number on line. They said they operate for the police department during the day and in the evenings they do infidelity cases and I guess any other type. I was quoted $380 and told it would take between 2 and 3 hours. He also said we would go over questions there before the test. I have compiled a list of questions I want to ask. Many I've already asked I just want verification. Most are yes and no. 1 or 2 are open ended. I'm thinking the operator will help me turn them into yes or no questions.


Me: BF 35 Her: FWF 35 dss: 17
D-day: 06/06/04. Ons
D-day: 02/28/13. length of A: 4+ months
Seperation after dday
Moved back in 6/20/13
Broke n/c: 07/24/13
Together since: 02/05/02

Posts: 95 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: cannibal
sideblinded
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Default  Posted: 9:14 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cannibal - You are getting good information from your google search on polygraph testers. Everything you have written is what we experienced last week when we did ours. Plan on 2-3 hours with the tester, and they will help you whittle down all your questions to just a few in yes-or-no format to get the answers you need. The most important point, I think, is to make sure they are state-certified and experienced. The price you were quoted is in line with what we paid. Our tester has 30 years with our police dept. and is a trainer for other polygraph testers. I trusted him completely and trusted that the results we got were accurate.

Good luck on this journey of yours.


Me: BS, 56
Him: WH, 51, possible SA.
3 kids, 19, 17, 15
M 21 yrs.

Posts: 59 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Midwest
cannibal
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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There was a day that I sat high upon the pulpit and preached the word because I knew. I knew in my heart of hearts that I knew the truth. That I knew what it would take to survive in this world. That I could take any blow and be able to keep on swinging. I took many blows. I took too many blows. 
One day that bubble burst. I had to take a hard look at life. I had to stop and wonder what happened. I was once again searching for the truth. So you look back on the records to see what happened. Where did I go wrong? When did this all begin? The records are not all there. They have been deleted, destroyed, or never recorded and that one record in your head is scratched, repeating a loop. Sometimes a small loop. Sometimes a big loop. Not looking in the future. The plan for the future lost in the search for the past.
I heard about this device that can detect the truth, "The polygraph." It could mend my broken record. It could put an end to my searching. It could allow my mind to focus on the future again, put away the past, and my heart to love undyingly again. Will it? .... (to be continued in next weeks episode)


Me: BF 35 Her: FWF 35 dss: 17
D-day: 06/06/04. Ons
D-day: 02/28/13. length of A: 4+ months
Seperation after dday
Moved back in 6/20/13
Broke n/c: 07/24/13
Together since: 02/05/02

Posts: 95 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: cannibal
Topic Posts: 9

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