We had our first MC session last night and I think I really like her. I expected just an intake but she really did a minimal intake and jumped right in with both feet. I wasn't prepared for that.
When XWH and I went to MC we only made it 4 sessions. She would not "allow" me to even speak of the A. So I didn't know what to expect from this one.
She asked WH why he had the A. When he responded with the usual IDK she asked "okay, but what what is your hunch?" And waited literally for 2 minutes in silence while he struggled. It was even uncomfortable for me. His final answer was that he was floundering on that and could not come up with one reason why. She asked me what my hunch on "why" was and asked him if that rang true for him. "IDK."
And then she asked him if there was anything else he needed to tell me. If the COW decided next week or next month that she was wronged and wanted to write Turtle a letter laying it all out, would there be anything new she could tell me - did it go on longer, did you bad mouth Turtle, were there plans to leave to be with her? He said no, he told me everything (but he did that blinking thing he does when he lies that makes me want to rip those beautiful lashes off in clumps. He stuck with "I told you everything."
BUT, and this just hit me as I am typing this - after he said he had told me everything he added "but she could tell Turtle anything she wanted to even if it was a lie." How did this line escape me? Great, another thing to obsess about.
So I like her - she seems very no nonsense and goal oriented. WH actually liked her too.
Me: 41 BS/WW/BS
2 kids 9 & 11, 3 steps 20, 8 and 3
BS 1st DDay 10/14/08, 5 mo. PA w/ MOW
WW 2nd D-Day 3/22/10, my exit A with HS BF
Separated 4/19/10
Married H #2 10/8/11
BS latest Dday 12/28/13 - PA w/ single COW
