Topic: positive story
Member # 35475
| Posted: 5:37 PM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014|
We are in the middle of A season with our antiversary fast approaching. Its been alomst 2 years since DDay and we have come a long way.
So my FWS responds to a story I was sharing about training someone today with "well, he might have a past like me." I was floored. We dont talk about his A anymore. I know it all, or as much as I want to know. He is extremely remorseful and I dont have the desire to rub his face in it anymore. So I was speechless when he made referrence to it. He then held me and apoligized again for hurting me.
Now this in itself made my heart sing. But wait... theres more!
He then told me about a girl who does checkout at the retail job he does. He said that he had gone thru her line several times when he started to feel that there was a little too friendly conversation happening. The next time he went thru he made a point to talk about me and the girls to her. He then said that after that she was still friendly but not the same.
I Am proud of him for 1) telling me about it and 2) having good solid boundries. He respected my wishes in all of it!
I had to pass on a good story. :)
WS (him) 50, Diagnosed SA
BS (me) 41
Together since 5/13/2005
No kids together. 3 total between us (19, 17, 15)
Sobriety birthday: 1/11/2012
D-day #1: 2/17/2012
False R: 3/1/12
D-day #2: 7/27/14 - real R began
Posts: 66 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Leicester, North Carolina
Member # 40954
| Posted: 5:50 PM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014|
So glad to hear it. Its nice to hear that he came through for you!!! Thanks for sharing.
Me: 43 (BS)
LTA: 3 years
Posts: 79 | Registered: Oct 2013
Member # 30024
| Posted: 5:56 PM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014|
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Posts: 12645 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Member # 39682
| Posted: 7:59 PM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014|
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
Posts: 876 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
Member # 38958
| Posted: 8:20 PM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014|
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."
Posts: 438 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Canada
Member # 41690
| Posted: 8:22 PM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014|
That's a great story and one I needed today! Thanks!
Married: 9 years but together for 15
Recovering, Reconciling, Rebuilding, Restoring
Posts: 123 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: New York
Member # 42060
| Posted: 9:53 PM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014|
THANK YOU THANK YOU!! Not too many happy stories here. I so needed to hear happy ending after talking to a divorce lawyer (very depressing meeting) I like to read betraydwivesclub blog but right now I feel like I belong here since WH is not ready to reconcilate.
2 teenage kids
Calls OW a leech......I just wonder what he calls me..
Posts: 28 | Registered: Jan 2014
Member # 15902
| Posted: 2:24 AM, January 17th (Friday), 2014|
Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 33 years, Reconciled
Posts: 5992 | Registered: Aug 2007
Member # 41196
| Posted: 11:44 AM, January 17th (Friday), 2014|
ME - BS - 35 (33 on dDay)
fWW - 35 (33 on dDay)
Married 10 years, together 17
3 kids: 8, 6 and 4
D-Day: September 30th, 2013
She had a 6 weeks A with a COW
Posts: 145 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Quebec, Canada
Member # 40637
| Posted: 1:57 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014|
Thank you for sharing this - I was looking for positive stories today and this was a great help to me!
Married 1977. DDs, 1977 (prostitutes), 7/8/13 (LTA MOW), 11/14 (CL), 9/1/15 (PA). Porn, 2DUIs, blame-shifting. I told both families & adult kids. I was suicidal and cutting. I moved out for 2 years, he asked me to come home 10/16. R w exit plan.
Posts: 229 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
Member # 35812
| Posted: 3:46 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014|
How lovely! Yeah!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Posts: 8786 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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