into a version of their affair partner? Wh made a REALLY stupid/hurtful comment this last weekend and I know that is why I am ready to toss him to the curb again.
While he was knee deep with OW, he would sit in his chair and pronounce judgement on me - That man could sit and tell me how my mid-western, small town upbringing was bad. He advised me how he didn't want children as soon as we had them, he advised me how I don't even know how to TALK correctly (i.e. banter, ask proper questions, etc.), He pronounced judgement on my career choice years ago (chickie is currently in a similiar career but much more people involved). Blah, blah, blah. He was just a sanctimonious ass.
Come to find out - Every damn thing he tried to change in me was something about chickie - good grief, give me a b**b job and I would have been her!
ANYWAY --- he has changed. (some) I see it. I hear it, but he lapses (not in contacting ap, but in his treatment of me) and it makes me wonder. We've gone over most everything and I have advised him of the error of his ways. Some things are deal-breakers - he knows what those items are. I just need to figure out how much lee-way to give him and how much time to give him in this time of talking marriage building instead of marriage ending.