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iamsoblind42 posted 1/16/2014 20:59 PM

[This message edited by iamsoblind42 at 11:11 PM, January 16th (Thursday)]

cissi posted 1/16/2014 22:00 PM

You mean careless in that you should not have told your friend? I believe you should have told her, definitely. How would you feel if something like this was going on at her house when your daughter spent the night? She has every right to know and if the friendship between the girls is going to continue it should probably be only at her house for the time being. Even if the sexual situation had not happened, I would be livid knowing there was such heavy drinking between the adults while my child was in your care.

Not trying to hit you while you are down but try to look at it from her point of view, or if this were your daughter at their house.

iamsoblind42 posted 1/16/2014 22:56 PM

I absolutely see her side and would be livid.

I have removed rest if post and request for help as I cannot handle being kicked again right now.

[This message edited by iamsoblind42 at 11:13 PM, January 16th (Thursday)]

yearsofpain25 posted 1/17/2014 06:52 AM

NO NO NO iasb42!!! Please come back!

I get it. I have followed your Springer thread and every time you have tried to reach out to someone it has backfired. Every. Single. Time. I know your options are limited to who you can talk to in your personal life. Sounds like you may have tried to reach out to someone? Parent of one of your kids? And it backfired?

I don't this cissi was trying to kick you when you're down. Take a look around this place. It's an anonymous triage/trauma center. People's emotions are running hot and many are passionate where kids are concerned. Myself included. Especially of my DDs.

Ever hear of a shotgun dad? You know the guy who cleans his guns at the table when the boyfriends come over to pick up the daughter. That's me. Maybe I should change my user from yop25 to shotgundad2. Although if you've seen my first thread know that I will never own a gun. I have a dark sense of humor. It's a defense mechanism for me. Thus some of the name calling at your offenders in the Springer thread. Apologies for that. I'm just trying to make you laugh, or maybe just crack a little smile.

Point of my rambling is that you don't get to go away. We won't let you! I've been here since Nov searching for answers. There is a lot of advise on this site. Good, bad, ugly, and beautiful. The point is for you to decipher what works best for you. This is all anonymous. Have you seen my threads? Please don't look. I've been brutally honest because I need to for myself. But that's what you are going to get here. Brutal honesty and lots of different ways of looking at that honesty.

I'm going away for a week and I am going to put SI away as I will have little time even for sleep on my work trip. When I come back you better still be here and you better have posted back to this thread!! Lots of people including cissi want to help.

Just to try to make you smile, maybe even just a little...I'm going to pull out a bit of my dark sense of humor again. Apologies in advance. In my part 2 thread I introduced the old me. Maybe I should have used THAT as my user. Ready... I used to be Mr. Calendar Guy. C'mon lades. You know that guy. Many of you are or were married to him. You know the guy that would throw the calendar in your face if you didn't have sex for 3 weeks or whatever and expect you to throw yourself down on the bed for him. That was me. I was an A**HOLE. Yep I admit it. I apologize to my W for that back over the summer and she laughed her a** off for weeks. Several of my female friends laughed at that one too.

Sorry that I'm rambling. I'm trying to make you smile just a bit. So come back to us. Talk to us. You don't get to walk away.

yop25/frmrly MCG out!

brohl5 posted 1/17/2014 12:05 PM

I agree with yearsofpain. Come back and let us help you. You need someone to talk to. We are here to help.

k94ever posted 1/17/2014 12:19 PM

Blind....talk this out with us.

If this is the "BF" that was having sex with your husband who gives a flying fuck what she thinks.

We are here. Talk with us about this.


{{{hugs}}}


k9

brohl5 posted 1/17/2014 12:23 PM

k9 it wasn't the BF. It was another friend whose D is BF with her D.

Blind, talk to us.

doggiediva posted 1/17/2014 12:40 PM

I hope you come back and talk to us..

It does help to get advice and support...All you can do is make the best choices for you and kiddos as you move forward..

People can't go back and change what happened last week or last year, but many of us do learn from our bad and good experiences..

yearsofpain25 posted 1/17/2014 15:25 PM

bumping up this thread. not letting it go iasb42

Kalliopeia posted 1/17/2014 15:26 PM

you should tell EVERYONE.

brohl5 posted 1/17/2014 18:21 PM

I disagree you should tell everyone. I worked hard to keep the A from my kids, so I was selective who I told. After reading yearsofpain's story, I am very thankful I did.

iamsoblind42 posted 1/17/2014 22:28 PM

Thanks everyone. Last night and today were really rough but I am still here. Feeling I am in a fighting ring and just lost the last round but I will win the overall fight. Thanks for not giving up on me. Tears are back realizing I do have someone to talk to...all of you. Honestly you all have no idea how complete strangers mean so much to me right now.

brohl5 posted 1/17/2014 22:35 PM

(((huge hugs)))

You're going to be fine, I promise. I know it doesn't seem like that right now though.

Talk to us. Vent if you need to, ramble, ask questions, cry, whatever you need, we are here to lift you up.

You are not alone.

Are you getting rest? Eating? What do you need right now?

GotMyLifeBck2013 posted 1/17/2014 22:38 PM

Oh my goodness this is so new. Give yourself a break here. We ALL made mistakes and trusted people we shouldnt have. Ever seen one of those movies where the guy gets shot and runs around screaming for help? And some of those he was screaming for just turn their backs or slam the door in his face? You are an emotional gunshot victim, begging for a hospital full of doctors and nurses to save you. I can count on both hands a whole bunch of people who I told that just didnt care. But in the process i found out some fantastic things about some friends who bent over backward for me. You find out who the friends are quickly. Real quickly. Nice thing about SI is the vast experiences we have all had and our opinions will almost always mean you will find some posters that are bound to hit the right chord with you, and this includes a few waywards who really get it and are trying to help...youre in pain, let us help.

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