[This message edited by iamsoblind42 at 11:11 PM, January 16th (Thursday)]
BS: me 44 (then 42) WH: 50 (then 48) 2 kids Married 18 years D-day - 1/11/14 Filed - 1/16/14 Divorced 4/21/14 Walked in on WH and BF while her H watched
Not trying to hit you while you are down but try to look at it from her point of view, or if this were your daughter at their house.
I have removed rest if post and request for help as I cannot handle being kicked again right now.
[This message edited by iamsoblind42 at 11:13 PM, January 16th (Thursday)]
I get it. I have followed your Springer thread and every time you have tried to reach out to someone it has backfired. Every. Single. Time. I know your options are limited to who you can talk to in your personal life. Sounds like you may have tried to reach out to someone? Parent of one of your kids? And it backfired?
I don't this cissi was trying to kick you when you're down. Take a look around this place. It's an anonymous triage/trauma center. People's emotions are running hot and many are passionate where kids are concerned. Myself included. Especially of my DDs.
Ever hear of a shotgun dad? You know the guy who cleans his guns at the table when the boyfriends come over to pick up the daughter. That's me. Maybe I should change my user from yop25 to shotgundad2. Although if you've seen my first thread know that I will never own a gun. I have a dark sense of humor. It's a defense mechanism for me. Thus some of the name calling at your offenders in the Springer thread. Apologies for that. I'm just trying to make you laugh, or maybe just crack a little smile.
Point of my rambling is that you don't get to go away. We won't let you! I've been here since Nov searching for answers. There is a lot of advise on this site. Good, bad, ugly, and beautiful. The point is for you to decipher what works best for you. This is all anonymous. Have you seen my threads? Please don't look. I've been brutally honest because I need to for myself. But that's what you are going to get here. Brutal honesty and lots of different ways of looking at that honesty.
I'm going away for a week and I am going to put SI away as I will have little time even for sleep on my work trip. When I come back you better still be here and you better have posted back to this thread!! Lots of people including cissi want to help.
Just to try to make you smile, maybe even just a little...I'm going to pull out a bit of my dark sense of humor again. Apologies in advance. In my part 2 thread I introduced the old me. Maybe I should have used THAT as my user. Ready... I used to be Mr. Calendar Guy. C'mon lades. You know that guy. Many of you are or were married to him. You know the guy that would throw the calendar in your face if you didn't have sex for 3 weeks or whatever and expect you to throw yourself down on the bed for him. That was me. I was an A**HOLE. Yep I admit it. I apologize to my W for that back over the summer and she laughed her a** off for weeks. Several of my female friends laughed at that one too.
Sorry that I'm rambling. I'm trying to make you smile just a bit. So come back to us. Talk to us. You don't get to walk away.
yop25/frmrly MCG out!
You couldn't have told me in July and December of 2006, but there really is a life after this mess.
Breathe, just breathe.
If this is the "BF" that was having sex with your husband who gives a flying fuck what she thinks.
We are here. Talk with us about this.
{{{hugs}}}
k9
Blind, talk to us.
It does help to get advice and support...All you can do is make the best choices for you and kiddos as you move forward..
People can't go back and change what happened last week or last year, but many of us do learn from our bad and good experiences..
60 years young..
You're going to be fine, I promise. I know it doesn't seem like that right now though.
Talk to us. Vent if you need to, ramble, ask questions, cry, whatever you need, we are here to lift you up.
You are not alone.
Are you getting rest? Eating? What do you need right now?
Me: fBH 46 Her: exWW 42 DDay: Nov 1, 2012 Divorced: September 17, 2013
