We are married for 17 years. My H had an EA in June of 2012. I found out by reading his FB messages to a girl about how much he is in love with her, he wrote her love poems, ( he never wrote me poems) stated over over and over how crazy he is about her and complaining about our marriage. Since then it has been an emotional roller coaster for me. He says that he wants to work on our marriage and move on. But how do I know that he loves me ? In my mind I still see "I love you" to her. When he says he loves me, it is just like that , short and mostly during sex. I want to hear him saying to me passionately about how much he loves me and cares for me. I constantly compare how he expressed to and how he does it to me. He doesnt compliment me on my looks, he doesnt write or call me during daytime when he is at work. He doesnt want me to go back and talk about the past . But I still feel lonely and depressed. So Iam I expecting too much of him? Should I just be happy that he stays with me and says I love you? Then why does it still hurt?
[This message edited by BrokenheartedD at 7:23 AM, January 17th (Friday)]