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User Topic: Drought Emergency in CA
silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Driest year on record since before they began keeping records in 1849… Almost no snow bank, reservoirs at an all-time low, no rain at all in some places...

Anyone else scared?


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pretty crazy.


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Posts: 18277 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm in So Cal so yeah, I'm pretty frightened.


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We're really worried.
We started cutting back on our water use before the drought announcement, but now I think its become very real for my kids (young adults) who've never been through anything like this before.

If anyone has tips for reducing water use, please share them!!

We're taking 5 minute showers (hubby and I double up when we can ).
No running the water while brushing your teeth.
Flush when you poop, but not every time you only pee.
We're (half) filling the sink with rinse water for dishes instead of running the water.
Dishwasher and laundry are only done when there are full loads.
Put a brick in the water tank of your toilet.
Sprinklers are turned off.


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Bikingguy
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I decided today to stop water the grass. We have wanted to replace it with zero landscape for some time and I rarely water it anyway. So the only water it will get in the next couple of weeks will be when I wash my car.


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MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

H & DS 11 love their long showers so they gotta cut back - thanks for the reminder to remind them!


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cinnamongurl
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Put a brick in the water tank of your toilet.

Instead of a brick, use a water bottle partially filled with pebbles and/ or sand and top it off water. Bricks can disintegrate over time and damage your pipes.


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Instead of a brick, use a water bottle partially filled with pebbles and/ or sand and top it off water. Bricks can disintegrate over time and damage your pipes.
Thank you- I had no idea about the disintegration factor.
The alternative sounds like it'd work well and it is all stuff most of us already have on hand.


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silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 5:08 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We're taking 5 minute showers

To add to this one, trying not to shower everyday. If I'm used to everyday and shower every two to three, it's already cutting down a lot!

As a gardener, planted herbs last year and now very thankful! They need less water than other plants. Going to take some of my back patio plants and transplant them from their pots into the garden - plants closer together means less bare soil, and the water stays in the soil for longer. Watering less frequently too.

[This message edited by silverhopes at 5:09 PM, January 17th (Friday)]


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TrustNoOne
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Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very concerned.

Lived through the wildfires of 2003, 2008, 2013.

There's nothing like being in the path of a wildfire.

Enough already. C'mon Mother Nature...drench us.


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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

paper plates & plastic utensils one or two days a week cuts down on what needs to be washed

shower at the gym or school

see if you're allowed to use washing machine or dishwasher water in your garden


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allusions
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Many of my neighbors have gone to xeriscape/native plant yards and gardens, or else have let their lawns die off. If you don't need to have a grass lawn it really makes sense to take it out---less water used and less yard maintenance.

Some cities, municipalities, water companies, landscaping companies, etc. are offering rebates and discounts and such for putting in xeriscape landscapes. Might be something to look into.


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silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 4:27 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The wildfires make me nervous. As everything gets drier, there will be more wildfires, and each time there is, even more carbon released, temperature climbs, drier, more fires… Feedback loop. Need to reforest stat! Compulsively looking up links right now.


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
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Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

Posts: 3920 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just found this article about the drought:

http://www.mercurynews.com/science/ci_24904396/california-drought-whats-causing-it

Some cities, municipalities, water companies, landscaping companies, etc. are offering rebates and discounts and such for putting in xeriscape landscapes. Might be something to look into.

Really? Neat!


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Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

Posts: 3920 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
welcome14
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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a third for xeriscaping! I hate lawns, such a waste of resources and cause for chemical ground water table pollution...there are many alternatives, to putting down hardscaping, or planting things like buffalo grass or such. Plant low water level herbs and veggies instead of flowers, and double your reward! There r many companies now, such as high country gardens, that specialize in these plants. They also have a very good symbol labeling system so u can see low water usages, deer/ pest resistance, etc. Good luck, I wish u rains!


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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, January 19th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can reduce the amount of water used to shower by getting one of those thingies (don't know the technical name) that cuts the water flow without turning off the faucet. Then use the 'navy shower' routine:

get wet
cut water
soap/shampoo all over
put water back on and rinse
(turn off faucet when done)

takes 3 minutes tops

And you might as well stop watering your grass already, because if history is any predictor it will be illegal to water it soon enough.


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silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

30% chance of rain here on Friday! Dark clouds (but no rain) right now…

How is everyone else doing?


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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, January 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a third for xeriscaping! I hate lawns, such a waste of resources and cause for chemical ground water table pollution...there are many alternatives, to putting down hardscaping

"Get off my ...... pavers???"

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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, January 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wells are going dry in my area. People have to buy water from people with deeper wells to bring in big tanks, 1200gallons worth. My well is OK right now. But we have a long way to go if it doesn't rain until November.

In the almond orchards they are pulling off the fruit and just watering enough to keep the trees alive.

Cattle farmers are having to buy feed since there is no grass, very expensive.

Today and tomorrow we are supposed to get 1/2 inch of rain, 1 foot of snow above 7,000 feet. But it won't be enough by far.


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, January 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can reduce the amount of water used to shower by getting one of those thingies (don't know the technical name) that cuts the water flow without turning off the faucet.

What is this? Anybody have a product name I can search for on Amazon?

My new place has one of those tiny water heaters that connects directly to the shower and I have like six minutes of hot water every morning. I have always been a long shower person, and I really miss shaving my legs.


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