I instantly got the feeling she wasn't encouraging him towards reconciliation
She was giving him all kinds of statistics about how only 30 percent of marriages reconcile after adultery
It's not an IC's job to be an advocate for the marriage.
Their job is to advise what's best for the individual.
This ons came out of no where pretty much
No it didn't, you were communicating with your AP on a daily basis for a long time.
you to come to his hotel room when he visited your city. You went, knowing full well what was likely to happen. You're an adult not a 10 year old.
I have never been unfaithable before in our 23 years
I certainly hope you didn't tell him that. He wouldn't have taken that well at all.
Because that's like saying "I'm a only little bit pregnant" or "I only murdered one person in my life".
How did I manage to be so incredibly selfish that I messed up 5 lives!
Stop minimising your actions, own your shit, face the consequences and you will begin to answer the question.
[This message edited by SlowUptake at 2:09 AM, January 18th (Saturday)]
Dday Dec 2009
"Do not say a little in many words but a great deal in a few." Pythagoras
There are two kinds of people in the world.
Those who can extrapolate from incomplete data.