I found out about my partner's "friendship" on December 15th. We have been together for 10 years. Initially, our relationship was very passionate, but over the years our sex life ebbed and flowed. We sometimes went a month or two without sexual contact, but we have always been very close. We have so much in common and I thought we would be spending the rest of our lives together.
When I confronted him about his texting friendship, he said he would end it because he wanted to save our relationship. However, I found out several days later that they were still talking. I fear it may be a full affair now. He told me he loves me and the OP. He said he is confused and can't decide. He said he felt our relationship lacked the intimacy he needed.
I know their relationship has intensified. He is very cold and distant with me now and texts with the OP constantly. I have caught him in several lies, but have not confronted him. BTW, he is 34 and the OP is 21.
I have only told my close friend at work and she has been very helpful. I feel that I need to tell my family for support, but fear that they might not ever be able to forgive him if we do eventually reconcile.
I think he may be planning to move in with the OP soon. I can't seem to focus on my job, sleep, or eat. My heart is constantly pounding in my chest. I need help.