That being said, answer her questions honestly.
She is not you, so don't project what you would want onto her.
"Your secrets keep you sick"
It's tough because I, at least, just wanted to forget details. I didn't want AP in my head at all, let alone at the level of recounting (and thus having to remember) blow-by-blow details of physical acts. Nonetheless, providing whatever information BS needs to heal is critical.
The questions and answer session may go on and on and it may flare up as she rides her emotions. Our job (if we want any chance at R) is to answer them honestly and in detail.
It's hard to measure, but do it cautiously (and kindly, like I said before). You don't have to say enthusiastically, "The sex was friggin' awesome!" (if it was), but gently tell her what she asks.
It is counterintuitive really... the less we defend our well-being, the more well we feel. ~ Nancy Colier