My SO and I are still living together even though he is continuing his affair. He texts with the OP most of the time when he is home. He is cold and distant with me.
That is some cold blooded shit! Don't let this guy disrespect you honey! Hefty bag his shit and put it on the curb. Let his younger 'lurrver' take care of him and launder his poop stained underwear!
To blatantly contact his stupid slut in front of you is cruel and heartless.
Part of why he is being so cruel is because he knows he can get away with it...
Your SO is emotionally harming you, there should be consequences for his sadistic behavior. But as long as you roll over and beg him to stop he will continue. He is showing you what he really thinks of you...Believe HIM!
Draw the line in the sand, make some boundaries!
Find your self respect my dear LostnHurt. Its in there, in your soul. You know this is wrong.
Kick him out of you bed and out of the home.
There is a technique called the 180, you can find it in the Healing Library. Do this to help yourself detach from him.
Do this for YOU.
This can be your first line of defense to protect yourself from your SO who has become a creepy douchebag.
DETACH, this will mentally help you deflect his crappy behavior and begin to think clearly about his abuse and betrayal.
We have been together for 10 years and I want our relationship to succeed.
Clearly, only YOU want the union to succeed. There is no relationship. He is shitting on what is left of it right now! If he pulls his head out of his whores ass, then maybe you can revisit a new relationship but this one is dead. Let it go...protect yourself.
Keep posting and let us know how you are doing with your 180.
Sending you strength and clarity.
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