I'm trying to figure out how to deal with the feelings of loneliness, because it's inevitable that I'm alone a lot these days and at times it makes me feel really unhappy.
My EXWH moved across the country, so I'm single momin' it...running to my kids' school, sports, etc. etc. like many of us here. Tired like many of us. I do have a wonderful SO and things are going great. But he has joint custody, week on/week off, so his "on" weeks I don't see him much. I've met his kids, he hangs out with mine quite a bit on his off weeks, but our kids haven't yet met. We've taken that part slow. I definitely see us together, and when the kids starts to coexist more things will get easier, but it's a slooooww process and not the "rush in and spend all time together" that things are before kids.
With my ex, he traveled about half the time, so ironically I spent the last 5 years of the marriage alone a LOT. I always felt like I was waiting for him to come home. Or leave. And now I feel like I'm waiting to see my SO. I love my boys dearly, but at the end of the day it's hard not to have the company of another adult. My family doesn't live close (moved here a few years ago) and all my friends are busy with their families.
I do somewhat enjoy my kids-are-in-bed time that is mine all mine, but the hours leading up to that are hard. And even after.
I have things to keep me busy...going to the gym, LOTS of reading, friends during the day, watching movies, journaling, etc. Not to mention cleaning, keeping my kids entertained, etc. And I'm a teacher so there's always something to catch up on. But I just feel lonely for adult company, bored, like I'm...waiting. Anyone else experience this? I end up eating, watching TV...and while I don't have a weight problem, I might start to at this rate as food is suddenly filling some kind of void...
[This message edited by NWfleur at 9:34 PM, January 19th (Sunday)]