My husband and I have been married for 5 years, we have. 2 year old daughter, and I'm about 11 weeks pregnant. Friday night my husband came home drunk and passed out, his phone started rigging at 3 am and someone kept calling, so I went to answer it, missed the call from his old college friend, but opened a new text message from another woman. It was a naked photo. He hadn't seen it yet. Their conversation seemed fairly harmless, talking back and forth about mundane things and she had previously sent a photo from her modeling shoot that he never responded to and started talking about something else. They had met up that night and when I confronted him he admitted to hanging out with her at different bars after work when he told me he was still working and texting her a lot. After looking at the phone records, their texting started in November and minus a week and a few days here and there! they were texting everyday, at least several messages throughout the day, but over the last 3 weeks there were up to 40 texts between them in a day. He swears nothing happened between them and texted her infront of me that the naked photo was inappropriate. She apologized and hasn't contacted him since. He said that was the first time she's sent him a photo like that, but I can see on our phone records that they sent a few photos which he claims were of random things like beer, or when hew as snowboarding. It really hurts that on our 5 year wedding anniversary, he texted her all day except while we were out at dinner, and after we got home he said he had to work but was texting her. On Xmas with my family, he excused himself to take a nap but was texting her.
Once I found out, he has given me a lot of information, deleted her contact info, and sent her a message saying that he was married and that they couldn't be friends anymore since she was acting in appropriately.
I don't think he would have a reason to lie about whether or not anything physical happened since 3 years ago I had an affair and didn't tell him about it until a year later. It happened once after we had been fighting and he had said he wanted a divorce and told his parents. We ended up reconciling and I should have told him, but I didn't. I can recognize that the person I had an affair with was someone I had gotten close to for a few months, so I think that's what was happening with my husband and the OW. I can't believe whether or not something physical happened and they aren't telling me the truth, but have a gut feeling that it would have continued to escalate.
I'm trying to process through the information and my husband says he wants to move forward, but I'm scared I'm being duped.