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StillStanding1 posted 1/20/2014 22:02 PM

It just makes me so sad sometimes. I'm still reeling and trying to figure it out. And I see that 2000 more hurting people are out there, looking for answers and support, since last August when I found SI.

((((to all the newbies)))))

And a huge thanks to all the veterans who stick around to coach us all through this mess.

Thanks to all those who "work" here too! Glad to have this safe place to come to!

betrayedfriend posted 1/20/2014 22:12 PM

I know what you mean, there's almost 23,000 more from when I joined. It's devastating to think that that many more have needed the help and comfort provided here.

[This message edited by betrayedfriend at 10:15 PM, January 20th (Monday)]

Ascendant posted 1/20/2014 22:23 PM

It does make me very sad to think about...especially when you figure in all the children, and all of the people NOT's honestly heartbreaking. So many people affected by so many poor decisions.

Flourgirl posted 1/21/2014 01:50 AM

It's really sad that so many are trying to survive this reality. I'm just so glad this site is here for us. I thought I was losing my mind before I found this space. Even if I don't always post I can read the threads and see we are all struggling on the roller coaster together. It's so isolating and nobody in my real life wants to talk about it. They can't understand what this does to you. For both WS and BS we can see we're not alone.

1owner posted 1/21/2014 07:33 AM

Also, consider the ones affected by infidelity that lurk but never join, or never find this site at all. We will never know how many there are.

lostandhopless posted 1/21/2014 08:33 AM

I am so thankful for this site. My thought is even one is too many.

GotPlayed posted 1/21/2014 08:55 AM


Indeed it's sad. But silver lining. It's not 2000 more hurting, its 2000 more who have found a place of healing.

I don't know what I would have done if I hadn't found this place (day after DDay no less, though I didn't make an account until the nest weekend).

Still with that I made and continue to make many mistakes. But at least I'm on my way to rebuilding my life with my head up high and the right advice. Thanks to everyone here.

StillLivin posted 1/21/2014 09:10 AM

Hey, Still, we joined right about the same time. I lurked for just a little over a week before joining.
It's sad that so many damaged and broken people are out there causing massive amounts of even more damage through their A.
But, it is good that there are places like this to help us not become even more damaged than our WSs and that this places exists for those WS that genuinely want to fix what they have broken as well.
I have learned Soooo much from the folks here. I now know what red flags to look for in future relationships. I am slowly fixing myself and figuring out how on earth I became so co dependent during the M.
I cannot change the past, but I can align my future to set myself up for the maximum amount of happiness.

StillStanding1 posted 1/21/2014 11:32 AM

Definitely agree with you guys on the "silver lining". SI has been my sanity. I am so grateful to all the people who share their stories and experiences and try to help others heal. I've connected with some real incredible people here. And, although I don't post my own story much, I gain insight from others and feel a huge amount of satisfaction in being able to comfort others.

The incredible result is how much I am growing as a person since this all occurred. SI has been monumental in allowing me to dig into myself and also better analyze our M and my H. No matter what happens to me or my M going forward, I know I am in a much better place mentally to handle whatever life throws my way. For that, I will be eternally grateful.

Often, the advice here is better than from our C. Think I'll start a new thread on that...

Coachdig10 posted 1/21/2014 12:55 PM

2000 since August is incredible. I am one of the 2000 and wished I had found SI sooner. When I joined, I was astonished at the amount of people on here. I am glad their is a site like this but it makes me sad for humanity that there is so many.

dontknowwhyme posted 1/21/2014 14:55 PM

A few years ago I had graphed members vs. time from 2003 to 2012. In that time frame new memberships grew very steadily at nearly 5000 per year. Since I joined, the SI family has almost doubled.

EB1541 posted 1/21/2014 15:01 PM

It is very sad to think about. I joined the site a few days ago and has been keeping me going with all the support and advice. It's nice to know I am not alone and there are other people who care about my well-being.

*hugs* to everyone!

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