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She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 1:33 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 1:48 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014
(((Shelly and baby)))
You left her at home with someone who loves her that you know will take good care of her. Hang in there today.
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 1:57 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014
I would do anything to be with her right now....I don't know how I'm going to survive the day....
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
lifestoshort ( member #18442) posted at 3:43 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014
its times of being away from our children too, that make up better more loving parents. If I were with mine every second of everyday, I would not appreciate them as much. she too will appreciate when you get back. you are doing the best you can. do not beat yourself up. we are not super women.
Im 45. 1st H I left in 2001 after 3 kids. narcassist.
2nd exH had MANY affairs.FALSE R. cheats again. D 5/09. 2 kids. I got 100% custody. ex hasnt seen kids in 6 yrs.
2014 to now: dated highschool sweetheart. He cheated w 23 yr old & left.
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 3:50 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014
Sweetheart you ARE NOT the worse mom in the world. You are a loving mom doing what we do.
Look at it this way. If you had stuck with Sperm Doner do you really think he would be pitching in and helping with the poopy cloths/bedsheets/vomit stuff?
I don't thing so.
You'd STILL be doing it all by yourself. AND you would have to still take care of him.
From my POV you are much better off.
But {{{{{{{tons of hugs 'cause I've been there}}}}}}
k9
BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 5:22 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014
(((Shelly)))
You are not not not the worst mom in the world. You sound like a very loving, nurturing, caring mom!
I am sure her Nana will take very good care of your precious DD!
Hang in there sweetie!
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
Gottagetthrough ( member #27325) posted at 7:29 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014
you are so far from the worst mom in the world
. You are caring, loving and nurturing.
I hope that you have gotten through (most) of the day and can spend some quality time with your little on tonight. (((SHELLY)))
I hope your little one is feeling better, too.
GrievingMommy ( member #28127) posted at 9:43 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014
I agree with the previous posters that you are FAR from the worst mother on the planet.....because you have to work while your little one is sick! I'm a single full-time working mom as well and we have to do what we have to do to survive.
I'm glad Piper has her Nana to take care of her when her Mommy can't be there. She'll be fine hun.
I've had to take my kids to my employer's daycare for sick kiddos (so the employees can work). That is hard taking them to strangers but they do fine and won't be harmed by it and I don't always have a choice.
Bottom line. She'll be okay and so will you. Hope she's feeling better!
Oh, and even if you weren't a single parent, it doesn't mean that you'd be home with her - the possible only logical option due to time off availibilty is for your spouse to be home with her. I try and tell myself that too - some things might not always be different if I wasn't a single parent.
((((((hugs))))))
Me - Now 36 y/o
WXH: Now 45 y/o and 18+ hrs away -NPD asshole now onto wife #3.
My sweeties: 5 yr old B/G twins. 90% custody (or more) since 14 months old.
D-Day 4/4/10 PA('s?) & EA's - D'd 7/11
Tawnee1969 ( member #12358) posted at 11:43 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014
Shelly, I was a single Mum for 15 years. The way I had to cope was by having "bad mummy points".
You have to laugh about it or you will cry. Once when I was over whelmed with working, kids etc I dropped my youngest to school on a student free day, only to have him run alongside the car tapping at the window to let me know. Another time he didn't catch me and the school called to let me know and I HAD to work so I had to call my neighbour to pick him up.
I had really good bosses so if I had to work and he was only feeling a bit iffy, he came to work with me.
I am a horrible cook so food was always hit and miss.
He is now 16 and other son is 24. They both lived and love me to death, so I didn't do too badly.
Give yourself a break and share with other Mums your "bad mummy points". We all have them.
Is the f*cking you're getting, worth the f*cking you're getting?
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 1:26 AM on Wednesday, January 22nd, 2014
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
MissesJai ( member #24849) posted at 1:30 AM on Wednesday, January 22nd, 2014
She will get better, I promise you. This bug is nasty, so just keep her hydrated and make sure you get some rest too. You can't take care of her if you're not well.
44
Happily divorcing..
My Life is Mine!!!!
#BlackLivesMatter
Don't settle for no fuck shit....
hitbyatruck ( member #23769) posted at 6:28 AM on Wednesday, January 22nd, 2014
big prayers for your sweet little one. You are a very good Mom!
Married 1998. 2 kids. First discovery 3/2009. Multiple affairs, porn addiction. one failed attempt at R. Nested for over a year. Divorce final 8/2015. XH is now married. I am engaged!
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 2:35 PM on Wednesday, January 22nd, 2014
Checking in to see how she is this morning?
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 3:36 PM on Wednesday, January 22nd, 2014
She stayed with me in my bed til about 1am.... making sounds that sounded like dry heaving but I think it might have been the phenagren fighting the vomiting. The diarrhea is still there but not quite as prominent this morning.....she is now napping.
I'm missing another day of work. I wish this nightmare would stop. I can't lose my job. I need it. I'm the only provider....but I know my daughter needs me.....its a torturous balance....
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 4:01 PM on Wednesday, January 22nd, 2014
Will your boss allow you to make lost time?
Glad Piper is at least a little better.
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
Gottagetthrough ( member #27325) posted at 5:14 PM on Wednesday, January 22nd, 2014
oh I am so sorry... praying that she is getting better today.
Whalers11 ( member #27544) posted at 5:30 PM on Wednesday, January 22nd, 2014
Can you leave here with Nana for a few hours to go into work for a little bit and get a few things done?
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 9:03 PM on Wednesday, January 22nd, 2014
Is there any work you can do at home?
Is your boss open to telecommuting for a couple of days?
{{{hugs}}}
Piper will get better.
k9
BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 2:04 AM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
I'm already in the negative now for sick leave as far as this week goes so I offered to bring work home with me this weekend and work through some lunches. My boss is pretty flexible.... I've been up packing tonight after she went to bed and am now spent....I think a half a glass of wine and its bedtime for me....
Goodnight all
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 4:32 AM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
((Hugs)) I'm sorry hon - I can vouch though that I've had to leave mine home sick too. DH and I tag team usually. I hate leaving her when she's sick too but work has to get done, bills have to be paid. I hope your sweetie feels better soon.
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