Quick update. OW and WH had a HUGE disagreement over Christmas period. Lots of really awful things are said to one another. There was NO holding back from WH side. She also gets engaged on Christmas to her long standing boyfriend.
Now OW and WH are part of a group of friends that go out on occasion. Now they have agreed to act as 'normal' as possible to avoid any suspicion from the others so it doesn't 'disrupt' the others (told WH that this was to late as everyone seems to know anyway).
Now here's my dilemma..... They are still in contact through a group chat with other friends and also individually, which infuriates me beyond measure whenever I hear the phone message! I've been the better person all along and kept quiet and let this all come to an end but I'm so dying to get hold of her. I'm just dying to put her in her place. He's told her I know everything and is 'horrified'...... But I know for sure her fiancé has no idea of their little 'fling' and yet she continues to keep in contact with WH. I also don't have a sure way to get hold off her fiance either. Please advise?
'If you come into my life, the door is open; If you leave my life, the door is open; Just one request, don't st
ETA: Tell the OW fiancée, like yesterday. I think that will hasten this to a decision one way or the other.
[This message edited by FacePunched at 8:57 AM, January 21st, 2014 (Tuesday)]
"Look, as sentient meat, however illusory our identities are, we craft those identities by making value judgments. Everybody judges, all the time. Now, you got a problem with that, you’re living wrong."
Send her a note telling her she drops out of the social group for good, I mean disappears from your WH's life or you will tell everyone what she has done, the group the fiancé...everyone.
or do what FP says above.
Also tell OW's betrayed fiance. He deserves to know exactly who he is marrying. Once he knows it's his decision on whether he stays but he deserves to know up front.
If it was me and I had access to this social groups voicemail or messageing system, I would leave a voicemail for all of them to hear letting the OW's fiance know exactly what has been going on and you just wanted him to know so he can make infomed decisions. It's not your secret to keep and if your WH gets mad it's just the consequences of his actions. My guess though is your WH has already told OW you know and she has told her fiance you are a crazy person but it's still his choice to move forward with the M once he gets the information.
[This message edited by 7yrsflushed at 9:47 AM, January 21st (Tuesday)]
If you know the fiancé's name and some general information, and can access the investigative tips forum, someone could help you out. Is he living with OW and do you know her address? You can send a certified letter to him and he ha to sign for it.
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
Continued contact is a big impediment to R. If he doesn't go NC, he's not a good candidate for R.
Do her fiancé a favor - let him know what his GF was doing while he was courting her....