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Topic: How can i be your soulmate when you f%$#& someone else?

heartbroken2012
♀ 38089
Member # 38089

Posted: 8:41 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014

My WH likes to tell me that I am his soulmate. This was something we said a lot to each other before the A...and I truly believed it. Our meeting was very unlikely.

Then he f&%$^& the OW.

He still says, when we are cuddling etc, that I am his SOULMATE. I dont believe it anymore....

SO my question is how the holy hell can I be your ONE TRUE SOULMATE if you FINALLY found me, then went and fucked someone else at work in the break room?

BS(Me) - 32
WS(HUbbie) - 40
OW - 44 (a ugly, old, white trash horse faced Coworker)
Affair was 2 months long
3 kids - 5yr old, and twins 8 months
Dday - 12/25/12 (lots of signs before I should have seen)

Posts: 598 | Registered: Jan 2013

WarpSpeed
♂ 32051
Member # 32051

Posted: 8:53 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014

What you probably need is actions over words. When his actions consistently make you feel valued, cherished and special then the words might start to resonate again. It might be worth talking to him about that if it fits.

Me: BS (52) Her: fWW (51)Married 28 years
2 awesome sons graduated college in 2015
She left Jan 2010, She filed Mar 2010, Div final May 2010, She shared it was an A July 2010, Remarried Aug 2010

Posts: 1536 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Dallas

KatieG
♀ 41222
Member # 41222

Posted: 8:54 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014

Yeah I am pondering a similar thing with my WBF at the moment.

We are in a period of what seems like "in love" and I am wondering what's real. A matter of months ago he was "in love" with someone else AND told her he thought they were soulmates.

I guess they changed their minds...

DD#1 - Oct 13

"Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive" - CS Lewis

Posts: 755 | Registered: Nov 2013

k94ever
♀ 11176
Member # 11176

Posted: 10:54 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014

Ask him and watch his reaction.

BS: 58
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 7313 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin

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