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User Topic: Staying together for the kids
♀ 36564
Member # 36564
Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We stayed together for two years after Dday. Multiple therapists, but still much minimizing and lack of compassion from my STBX. My children were 6 and 9 at Dday and I was so scared that a separation would devastate them.

I just wanted to share with everyone how WELL my children are adjusting. It's been about 3 mos. since our separation and even their psychologist confirms they have had an easy adjustment and show no signs of problems. My daughter's irritability has improved. I believe that is because she is no longer around tense parents. I feel much more at peace and I know my children can feel that.

No longer in limbo.

Posts: 83 | Registered: Aug 2012
♂ 35619
Member # 35619
Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's good news. I think this is a good example that it is ok to R for the kids' sake as long as you actually R. Limbo/rugsweeping is not a solution that's good for anyone including the kids.

Posts: 4634 | Registered: May 2012
♀ 41961
Member # 41961
Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for posting this. It is the one reason I let forgiving my WH.

I know my 17yo is moody about me allowing him to stay now. My 13yo seems distraught all the time. His personality seems changed. My 15yo is also moody but in a different way.... I am hoping when all this shakes out. They start leveling out....

BS: Me 47 WH: 54 Kids: 17, 19, 21, 32 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 423 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
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