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We stayed together for two years after Dday. Multiple therapists, but still much minimizing and lack of compassion from my STBX. My children were 6 and 9 at Dday and I was so scared that a separation would devastate them.

I just wanted to share with everyone how WELL my children are adjusting. It's been about 3 mos. since our separation and even their psychologist confirms they have had an easy adjustment and show no signs of problems. My daughter's irritability has improved. I believe that is because she is no longer around tense parents. I feel much more at peace and I know my children can feel that.

That's good news. I think this is a good example that it is ok to R for the kids' sake as long as you actually R. Limbo/rugsweeping is not a solution that's good for anyone including the kids.

Thanks for posting this. It is the one reason I let forgiving my WH.

I know my 17yo is moody about me allowing him to stay now. My 13yo seems distraught all the time. His personality seems changed. My 15yo is also moody but in a different way.... I am hoping when all this shakes out. They start leveling out....