We stayed together for two years after Dday. Multiple therapists, but still much minimizing and lack of compassion from my STBX. My children were 6 and 9 at Dday and I was so scared that a separation would devastate them.
I just wanted to share with everyone how WELL my children are adjusting. It's been about 3 mos. since our separation and even their psychologist confirms they have had an easy adjustment and show no signs of problems. My daughter's irritability has improved. I believe that is because she is no longer around tense parents. I feel much more at peace and I know my children can feel that.