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Staying together for the kids

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 LimboStill (original poster member #36564) posted at 6:01 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014

We stayed together for two years after Dday. Multiple therapists, but still much minimizing and lack of compassion from my STBX. My children were 6 and 9 at Dday and I was so scared that a separation would devastate them.

I just wanted to share with everyone how WELL my children are adjusting. It's been about 3 mos. since our separation and even their psychologist confirms they have had an easy adjustment and show no signs of problems. My daughter's irritability has improved. I believe that is because she is no longer around tense parents. I feel much more at peace and I know my children can feel that.

No longer in limbo.

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Brandon808 ( member #35619) posted at 6:16 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014

That's good news. I think this is a good example that it is ok to R for the kids' sake as long as you actually R. Limbo/rugsweeping is not a solution that's good for anyone including the kids.

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scarednbroken ( member #41961) posted at 8:47 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014

Thanks for posting this. It is the one reason I let forgiving my WH.

I know my 17yo is moody about me allowing him to stay now. My 13yo seems distraught all the time. His personality seems changed. My 15yo is also moody but in a different way.... I am hoping when all this shakes out. They start leveling out....

BS: Me 47 WH: 54 Kids: 17, 19, 21, 32 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

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