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AppalachianGal posted 1/21/2014 14:07 PM

I'm reeling. What kind of man am I married to? Again forced into confessing that the ho-worker gave him a BJ after work one day on the side of the road. WHO THE HELL DOES THIS?! The one he swore was just a "friend." My gut wouldn't stop screaming, but I swallowed it (no pun intended). Its still screaming. No way in hell do I believe that was a one-time thing or that nothing else happened. A kiss and a BJ. Right. No remorse this time. He seems pissed that he had to tell the truth. Officially done. 180-ing his ass and told him to GET OUT.

scarednbroken posted 1/21/2014 14:26 PM

Good for you! Hugs!

I will say that my WH does the same with his regular OW. She will not have intercourse with him (which is why e turns to hookers for that) but they do all kinds of other things in his truck. They go to a park, a deserted lot, riverfront, and the cemetery for their fun. (Yes with dead people!!!) he has taken a hooker for a suck n f**k to a marina. There Are no forbidden places....

why2008 posted 1/21/2014 23:25 PM

Looking at your sig it looks like you have been through hell.

Are you really through or just angry right now?

NeverAgain2013 posted 1/22/2014 07:56 AM

No remorse this time. He seems pissed that he had to tell the truth. Officially done. 180-ing his ass and told him to GET OUT.

I was married to a man just like this over 25 years ago. It was ALL about quickie 'hit and runs' - not about romance and affair partners and such. Getting side action with pretty much anyone who'd give it to him was his goal. There was NO lines he wouldn't cross, either.

From your signature line, it looks as though you're living the same 'dream' I was so long ago.

I left.

And never looked back.

Best decision I ever made.

Men like this will ALWAYS cheat. Always.

.

[This message edited by NeverAgain2013 at 7:58 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)]

FightingBack posted 1/22/2014 08:25 AM

WHO THE HELL DOES THIS?!

Lots of desperate, needy and sick women who for their own reasons, use this very manipulative act in order to gain power and control.

Of course the recipient is not an "unwilling victim", but unless a man is strong in his convictions as well as in self control, it seems like an easy and widely used manoeuvre on the part of women who need to feel wanted.

The OW knows that a BJ is hard to resist. After work, in a car, or in a secluded spot with a married man, it is not an act of intimacy or love. It is an act of pure manipulation. it is quick and easy but leaves the recipient wanting more.

"here is a sample of what I can and am willing to give you. Now you will desire me"


http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=513607

nowiknow23 posted 1/22/2014 08:30 AM

((((AppalachianGal)))) I'm so sorry, honey.

AppalachianGal posted 1/22/2014 09:59 AM

Exactly, FightingBack. Exactly. If I run into her somewhere, it may not be pretty. What a slut. On the side of the road like a hooker. I have been through hell. My sig line doesn't even touch some of it. "hit & run" Yep, that's his style. Needy women, uses for sex, drops like a hot potato. No love, no intimacy, no feelings. And its not like he wasn't getting THAT at home, either!

[This message edited by AppalachianGal at 10:02 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)]

sparkysable posted 1/22/2014 12:07 PM

I would be willing to bet that what you have found out about is just the tip of the iceberg. Imagine what you haven't found out about! He will keep doing this and he will not stop.

AppalachianGal posted 1/23/2014 10:10 AM

I'm sure this is just the beginning, but ya know what? I don't care. Haven't asked about "others." 2 sluts are enough. Once may be a mistake. Twice?? Hell no. I believe with all my heart there was a third for sure. I may not be enough for this @ss, but I AM enough, I have always been enough, and I will be enough for someone else!!

AppalachianGal posted 1/24/2014 13:49 PM

This feels like a nightmare. I am going on the emotional ride from hell. How do we (us BS) ever get through this?

sparkysable posted 1/24/2014 14:37 PM

I found out that my XWH was getting BJ's at work. I found this out after we were already divorced, but still, I thought to myself that everything was fine and I'm home sleeping, and he's getting BJ's at work. Who does this? A very fucked up person.

sparkysable posted 1/24/2014 14:37 PM

I found out that my XWH was getting BJ's at work. I found this out after we were already divorced, but still, I thought to myself that everything was fine and I'm home sleeping, and he's getting BJ's at work. Who does this? A very messed up person.

AppalachianGal posted 1/24/2014 18:03 PM

He told me more about it. This... person... grabbed him, unzipped his pants, and backed into the open door of her truck, and pushed him down into the seat. I am so f-ing pissed right now. If I see her out somewhere.... But I am not excusing him AT ALL. He could have stopped her! He could have pulled her skank hair out of her head! I said instead you LET HER! If would have been the same had she got naked and climbed on top of him, which in all honestly is probably also what happened. HE WANTED IT! Then the kicker-- he continues a texting, calling, picture sending marathon with her until I find out about the secret phone and her.

SadInNC posted 1/24/2014 21:02 PM

I am so mad FOR you right now! No. No. No.

My husband is still holding back truth from me and I have no idea what to believe at this point. I feel for you. It sounds like he has an ongoing problem with this and it will never end. It is not your problem. It is his problem. Too bad that you are the one who has to suffer because of it.

He needs the 180 thing. Yesterday. Try to be strong! We are here for you.

AppalachianGal posted 1/25/2014 10:51 AM

I wouldn't even wish this HELL on the other women. Seriously. I've never hurt this much.

CallMeRed1 posted 1/25/2014 11:12 AM

I am so sorry Appalachian but honestly I don't really believe she forced him - I mean you can't force someone to get an erection - if he was resisting it just wouldn't have happened.

I agree with sparky, I don't think he's going to change.

As gently as possible, I really think you should consider your options here.

AppalachianGal posted 1/25/2014 13:09 PM

I know she didn't force him. Its all on him. All of it.

Gah, this is just so lewd and disgusting. But, ya know what I keep thinking?? How sad and pitiful for her that even being on her knees, she couldn't even keep a serial cheater.

RidingHealingRd posted 1/26/2014 03:01 AM

Perfect answer by FightingBack!

The 1st encounter WH had with MOW (ho-worker) was in a secluded parking lot during her lunch hour. She gave him a BJ. The next morning she walked into his office, asked if he liked it and if he would like another.

Answer: Yes.

...and my nightmare began!

[This message edited by RidingHealingRd at 3:47 AM, January 26th (Sunday)]

SadInNC posted 1/26/2014 08:52 AM

I never thought of BJ's as a manipulative thing. But after reading Fighting Back's post it makes a lot of sense. For us normal, loving women it is something that we do out of love and for fun with our husbands. We know how much they love BJ's, ladies so I could see how a manipulative, sick bitch would use that to gain control of men.

AppalachianGal posted 1/26/2014 08:56 AM

Oh yes. I can totally see it. Damn. What sick, twisted, broken, sad excuses for women.

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