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Wayflost posted 1/21/2014 15:39 PM

Does anyone have an application that they and their BS really like for tracking purposes? I have an iPhone, and have a program called friend finder installed. But it's shoddy, and in the past several months has caused my BH to suffer further anxiety and stress about my actual location. For example, I had an appointment with my IC and the program showed me 5 miles away at the mall. Fortunately the C was willing and able to verify my location with ease. As if it weren't bad enough that I caused him to feel the need to check in on my location, but the hiccups in the system then cause him further angst, and all because I cannot be trusted.

So, I am looking for a different program or option for him to check in when he feels the need. I want something reliable so that he can trust I am where it shows, and hopefully where it shows will be where I've communicated I am. I'm looking to show consistency, and honesty. And I want to reassure him, not cause him further pain.

Any suggestions would be VERY welcome. Thanks!

Aubrie posted 1/21/2014 15:42 PM

Well, my mother "invited" everyone in the family to Life360, then successfully stalked all of us till we got a clue and disabled the app.

It was pretty accurate and we could all check in and whatnot.

It's been about a year since I disabled the app on my phone so someone else would have to chime in as far as recent reliability.

TattoodChinaDoll posted 1/21/2014 15:44 PM

We use Life360 and the Find iPhone app. Both work well most of the time. If one is on the fritz the other is a back up.

[This message edited by TattoodChinaDoll at 3:44 PM, January 21st (Tuesday)]

remorsefulww posted 1/21/2014 15:44 PM

Lookout mobile security. Make sure you create an account and verify in order for it to work. There is a "missing device option" that can tell you where your device is. All you have to do is log in from any computer and device and click the find missing device.

turtle72 posted 1/21/2014 17:05 PM

I use Find my iPhone and it is pretty darn accurate.

Sammy2013 posted 1/21/2014 22:07 PM

The find IPhone app is pretty accurate. But I would suggest a back up as anything can have glitches. I had huge anxiety attack when WH was away on a business trip. It showed him in the correct state, but then I zoomed in on satellite and it put him at a personal residence (huge house with a pool). I caught him with the app on DDay so, yeah, huge trigger. He face timed me from his meeting (discretely) and then excused himself to calm me down. It sucked. So absolutely have a back up.

AgainandAgain posted 1/21/2014 22:14 PM

I agree with the previous posters. Find my iPhone app is spot on. It located one of our lost phones within a few feet in the middle of a park.

Hope that helps!

KatieG posted 1/22/2014 05:33 AM

So do you need the Apple ID and password to log into iCloud and locate the phone. Slight t/j here but does the phone (person) you are trying to locate get notification?

mystified1970 posted 1/22/2014 06:18 AM

Find my iPhone does not alert the person you are tracking. It will show the geosettings(?) thingamajigger briefly on their screen but it's not noticeable. I use it frequently as it calms my wonderings.

heartbrokeninaz posted 1/22/2014 06:26 AM

We have life360. I will tell you its not always accurate. I freaked out one day because it said my WH was at a circle k about half a mile from his work for hours. I finally couldn't take it and drove over there. He was at work but that's not where the app was placing him. Most of the time it is spot on though.

turtle72 posted 1/22/2014 06:30 AM

Yes, you need their Apple ID, and no, they don't receive notification. Although there is a "play a sound" feature on the app that I accidentally hit while WH was driving down the highway the other day and scared the crap out of him.

We used Lookout Mobile Security when we had androids and it was a great app too.

All of these apps have some margin of error. One day WH had to run an errand for work. It showed him going in the direction he should have been, but then showed him stopped at a Wendy's parking lot. He already had lunch so I started to panic that he had met the COW there. When he got home he told me about the errand and losing his patience at a very long traffic light - and of course the light was in front of a Wendy's. I don't know exactly what I thought would be happening in the time it takes for a long light cycle, but that moment of fear was there.

Prayingforhope posted 1/22/2014 06:39 AM

Agree on Find My iPhone feature. It's amazing and it works easily without having to install anything.

Just activate it on your iPhone, give your BS your Apple ID so she can log in to the web page whenever she wants to and done.

I turned this on just a few days after DDay and I've never been so grateful I did. I have no idea how much she uses it (there is no notification, no log files, etc.) BUT I feel good to know she knows where I am whenever she needs to.

There is power in the transparency and living in the light..Good luck!

sodamnlost posted 2/8/2014 13:45 PM

Find my iPhone does not alert the person you are tracking. It will show the geosettings(?) thingamajigger briefly on their screen but it's not noticeable. I use it frequently as it calms my wonderings

In the settings they can tell if it has been used recently. Last 24 hours even.

AdamsApple posted 2/8/2014 15:54 PM

We use Life 360. But it seems to drop out a lot. We have WiFi that blankets our city (which we have access to). That seems to interfere with L360. For it to work properly, we need to turn off WiFi or constantly make sure that we are logged into it.

If I was still really concerned, I would go with the program that my phone company provides (for a monthly fee). I know that Sprint and Verizon both have something like that.

Wayflost posted 2/8/2014 23:49 PM

Thanks all. I installed a couple of programs, and am making a go of it. BH actually seemed to resent it, or rather, the need for it. But I have few ways of "proving" anything and this is one of them.

We'll see how it goes.

SlowUptake posted 2/9/2014 00:54 AM

A little piece of advice from my experience.
I was quite proud of myself when I, on my own without prompting, put a GPS tracker app on my phone.
Went to my BS like a puppy waging it's tail expecting a pat on the back for being so proactive helping her to feel safe.
The reaction, "All that does is let me know where your phone is, not you."
Don't get too despondant if you don't get the reaction you expect.

Asil0623 posted 2/10/2014 16:54 PM

Find my iphone is fairly accurate. I have used it since DD.

[This message edited by Asil0623 at 12:46 PM, February 17th (Monday)]

the past is gone posted 2/13/2014 20:01 PM

I have an iPhone but WH has a galaxy phone. So any advice on what app to use?

william posted 2/14/2014 10:11 AM

id love an app that shows location history of the iphone on the pc, not just where htey are when you check...

Lionne posted 2/15/2014 19:33 PM

Life 360 allows PC check in as well as phone. Also location history. It has improved. And is free. But glitchy. Important to realize that these are GPS based. If satellite reception is poor, the app may not work perfectly.