NPD-x began by requesting the judge expedite the hearing and skip required mediation due to dire financial straits...he makes $96,000/year. He wants to immediately modify parenting time deviating from the decree when oldest DD emancipates in 4 months, and younger kid is off to college in August and lives 100% with me (for over 3 years) and would rather stick forks in her eyes than live 50% with NPD-x and live in GF.
Much of it is just nuts, but the below takes the cake....
NPD-x took out a $60,000 second mortgage before divorce without my knowledge. Very suspicious and murky real estate deal without clear paperwork. Decree states specifics, which of course NPD-x claims are now not true. He and his lawyer are stating all kinds of numbers without any supporting documentation and expect me to just say, "OK, sounds great."
NPD-x claims I have a third of the money he borrowed (decree says nothing about this), he had 2/3 of it and spent if after the decree was signed on living expenses and other things. He wants my 1/3 back and wants me then to pay my 50% of the loan he took out. So to clarify, he gets to spend all the money he stole..I mean borrowed, and I get to pay half of it for him.... You can't make this stuff up.
One thing I have learned from this is all those emails I saved....saved my butt. I have emails from him refuting most of the distortions he is claiming.
Mediation is tomorrow at 9AM.
[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 10:44 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)]
Sounds like he is in a bit of financial trouble. Awwwww, shucks. Couldn't happen to a more deserving twit.
Mojo to you, but I suspect you will need self control not to roll your eyes or snicker more than you will need mojo.
I will hope for brilliance in spades for your L. I hope the law pokes holes in your X!!!
D-Day, June 10, 2012
It is what it is.
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
It's sick, truly sick.
I have an email to my lawyer about next steps, pros/cons and costs.
I feel pretty upset.
This too shall pass....This too shall pass.....
as I found out he wants to financially ruin me.
Of course he does. That is NPD thinking. Destroy the BS. I am sorry you are on his radar!! Maybe he will get bored or be thwarted enough to give up.
Either way, you are correct: it will pass.
MORE (((hugs)))
Realizing that their hatred doesn't go away was so hard for me to get. It is a scary thing to realize, just how far they will go to get that win against us.
He will do everything he can to throw you under the bus! You've been a very bad opponent my friend-you stood up to him. Why didn't you just pay all his bills (on your teacher salary) so he could just have a good time. Chrysalis, after all he's given you sooooo much and never took anything from you!
Hon, there's a reason you kept all those emails-you know your time rebuking his claims is not over. You've got the truth on your side, let your lawyer use it. Just because he interprets things differently now, doesn't mean that's the way the rest of the normal world will interpret the decree.
Hugs, the realization that after so many years the hatred hasn't lessened still stings. The time is approaching where it won't matter anymore, your dealings with him are coming to an end.
You've got this! With grace, truth and a brilliant lawyer, you've got this!
More hugs, K
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.” ― Pema Chödrön
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
