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User Topic: T/J - I despise my coworker
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a coworker with serious boundary isses and no filter on her brain or mouth.

She's the constant "victim" though.
To give you a sample of the insanity:
-In the time I've worked in this office (7 years to her 6 years), she's moved 7 times. Each time she had to move because roommate X, Y, or Z was causing problems. When she finally got an apartment sans roommates, she then had problems with her neighbors and had to move a few more times.
-She has three kids, none of whom are on speaking terms with her...but its THEIR fault.
-She's an absolute slob. She constantly leaves dirty dishes in the community sink for days at at time, then gets upset that her stuff has been thrown away several times.
-ETA: She suffers from "migraines" at least twice a month, but the attacks only seem to happen on Mondays and Fridays, since those are the days she calls out sick the most.

I've literally stopped speaking to her or acknowledging her presence at all unless it is work related.
Her response? Now I get daily compliments/emails (non work related) that are saccharine filled drivel. I don't respond.

Oy...the insanity.

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 2:30 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)]


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6737 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But gosh Gaby, she is so nice to you and you do not even acknowledge her. She tries sooo hard.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6718 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, sounds to me like it's all your fault.

Oh yeah, and I can't. stand. people like this.

((((Gaby))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2716 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 1:36 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like my former roommate... Serious drama addict but none of it was ever her fault.


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

Posts: 888 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, she's looney tunes alright.
I wont even get started on the completely inappropriate (racial/ethnic) comments she's made on a number of occassions.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6737 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
JessicaFL127
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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've got one of those too. She is awful and I am her current target, but she cycles through EVERYONE. She has no boundaries, is hateful towards one person at a time and manipulates (very transparently and clumsily )the rest, is incompetent at her job but sees herself as the "expert" in EVERY topic/aspect, even when we have to fix her mistakes.

She was "robbed" when she didn't get a job I was qualified for and I got it instead. (That began my turn in the spotlight) She is also physically repulsive, promiscuous and has no filter. The first time I had a conversation with her she showed me a Dick Pic on her phone of one of the online bondage guys she hooked up with. When I objected, her response was "What? I was showing you the color of his shorts!" She has three guys on the hook at once (more than I have had in my lifetime) and cries victim when all these guys bail after she flies them out to stay in her apartment with her teenage daughter and one was promising marriage before they even met in person! And she thought it was ok to make marriage plans because he was "protective" of her and her child before even meeting, and because she had a safe word! WTF? All these guys are from her fetish site and they are strangers to her and her child. But she honestly believes them when they talk marriage! So bizarre.

She is inherent in the drama circle and loudly complains about EVERY. TINY. THING that happens in the lab. And if someone doesn't condone her backbiting, she takes it to the LAB MANAGER, who has to listen to her drama. She has alienated her entire family, but it is their fault, not hers. I have never seen such a train wreck. And she thinks she is amazing.

Oh, and when I made a huge pot of chili a couple of weeks ago for the whole laboratory, she blew up another co-worker's phone on the co-worker's day off, texting about twenty times with gems like "Jessica is letting the PHLEBOTOMISTS eat too! I bet she is using your spoons! Are these YOUR bowls? She is letting them use bowls! I bet she didn't even save ANY for you! blah blah blah". And to make that even more infuriating, the other co-worker and I are the only ones that bring in the bowls, plastic utensils and disposable plates. SHE doesn't contribute!! But sure enough, her fat ass sat right down and ate chili. The evil, phlebotomist-feeding chili.

[This message edited by JessicaFL127 at 1:56 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)]


BW,32
divorced for 6 years
mom to two awesome boys,10 and 9

"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies"


Posts: 1244 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Missouri
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holy wow, JessicaFL!!! Penis pics? That should be an automatic report to HR. Wow!

She is inherent in the drama circle and loudly complains about EVERY. TINY. THING that happens
Yep. "My" nutjob does this too. To add to that, we're in cubicles, so any time someone drops by her desk, she launches into a 15 minute story about Issue of the Day. The next person that goes to her desk...rinse and repeat, every single time.

I've actually spoken to all three of the last supervisors we've had and while they agree she's a problem, she isn't a big enough problem to get booted out. But they all promise to have a "talk" with her.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6737 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
JessicaFL127
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Member # 26864
Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Where do these people come from, Gaby?


BW,32
divorced for 6 years
mom to two awesome boys,10 and 9

"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies"


Posts: 1244 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Missouri
GabyBaby
♀ 26928
Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My guess is the bowels of Hell...


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6737 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
JessicaFL127
♀ 26864
Member # 26864
Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My guess would be the opposite direction, from some bizarre and creepy planet.


BW,32
divorced for 6 years
mom to two awesome boys,10 and 9

"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies"


Posts: 1244 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Missouri
musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey, I think I know this girl. More likely someone just like her. I won't get into details here because its the off topic forum, but I'm so glad she isn't in our lives anymore

Posts: 1172 | Registered: Jan 2013
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey, I think I know this girl.

I wish she had the excuse of being a "girl", but the coworker in my case is a grown arse woman in her mid-50s. So you'd think she'd know better at this age and stage in life, right?


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6737 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Putto
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Member # 38261
Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think I was one of those roommates she complains about...

Must have been before she had children, I knew her in the college years. Good to see she hasn't changed!


I don't say much but I lurk around a lot. Thank you for baring your souls here, you've said the words I couldn't find and you've helped me heal more than I can say.

Me - BS
Him - FWS, serial long term EAs


Posts: 71 | Registered: Jan 2013
MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

why are you so mean to her? she's just trying to be nice!


FWW - 41
"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson

Posts: 6042 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

t/j
The evil, phlebotomist-feeding chili.

As a phlebotomist, thank you for feeding them! I've been on the not receiving end of "lab lunches" that only included techs and supervisors.

The reasoning? "Well the phlebs are always so busy, we didn't think you'd want to eat"

We get hungry too!


Posts: 3432 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

why are you so mean to her? she's just trying to be nice!

Well apparently she noticed that trying to nice me into engaging with her isnt working.
She has two new (8x10in) "motivational" signs hanging in her cubicle:

Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you.

Fact: Haters don't really hate you. In fact, they hate themselves because you're a reflection of what they wish to be.

Oh yeah, honey. I sooo wish I were you.

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 2:53 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)]


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6737 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jessica is letting the PHLEBOTOMISTS eat too!

Are phlebotomists like Gizmo? Are you not supposed to feed them or they turn into gremlins?


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6972 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

in the words of my H, someone sounds like a hater.


FWW - 41
"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson

Posts: 6042 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
GabyBaby
♀ 26928
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Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6737 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
JessicaFL127
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gizmo! Those greedy phlebotomists, always eating food. This woman is on the south end of her forties, good lord. Definitely no girl either.

[This message edited by JessicaFL127 at 9:28 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)]


BW,32
divorced for 6 years
mom to two awesome boys,10 and 9

"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies"


Posts: 1244 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Missouri
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