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User Topic: Think I am going to miscarry
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So back in 2009, I was pregnant & went in for my 12-week appointment. I had already had two ultrasounds where the heartbeat was seen. The doctor couldn't find the heartbeat with the doppler so he sent me to ultrasound, and there was no heartbeat. Since we had seen the heartbeat twice and then it wasn't there at my 12-week appointment, he knew the heart had started and then stopped.

This time I'm supposed to be 7w5d today, but the baby measured 6w6d. Heartbeat usually starts in 5-6 week range. So since the baby is measuring within the six week range still, and this is the first ultrasound (ie, they haven't seen the HB prior) they are going to get me in next week for another ultrasound. Because the heart COULD start, theoretically. However, I am pretty realistic about my chances here. To me, this is just being extra careful to not abort a potentially viable fetus. I don't really have any hope. I mean, I'm not going to go home and freebase cocaine or anything, but yeah. I'm pretty solid on my dates. I was using ovulation predictor kits and I know I ovulated on Friday the 13th of December. Oh irony.

My doctor is out of town so I didn't get to talk to him - I talked to a nurse. I'm not in shock like I was last time, but I'm really disappointed. And I feel like a fool for getting my hopes up and telling some people.

Just fucking sucks. I know there's no such thing as fair in the grown-up world, but I keep thinking it's not fair. I was sure I was never going to get to have another baby and I get a positive pregnancy test on CHRISTMAS DAY. And now it's being taken away from me. I know it could be worse, and I already have one perfect child, so I shouldn't complain. But right now it just really sucks.

[This message edited by JanaGreen at 4:24 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)]


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jana)))


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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zebra25
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jana)))


Me-BS 40's
Him-WH 40's
D-day April 2010
Married-20+yrs

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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh jana. I am so sorry. I hope so very much that everything is ok. Sending you love.



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. I'm thinking about you.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry yo are going through this Jana. My prayers that the baby is ok.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3527 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((( Jana)))


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24755 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry, Jana.

Praying things will be alright.


AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Jana))))


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sunandmoon
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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jana)))

Thoughts and prayers for you.

sunandmoon


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((( Jana )))


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Jana))


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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deeplysad
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jana)))


Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert


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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jana)))


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't posted about this...well, until now. I had a positive test on Christmas Eve. I miscarried my second angel in a year on January 8...2 weeks ago. Boy do I get how you're feeling. I'm praying for you.

[This message edited by TattoodChinaDoll at 6:05 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)]


Me (BW): 32
WH: 34 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shit TCD. I'm sorry. It's such a cruel joke - merry Christmas - psych, never mind. It's so fucking unfair, I'm sorry honey.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((JanaGreen)))
(((TCD)))

I SO wish there was something I could do to make this better for y'all. I'm so sorry.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 18 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jana and TCDD))) I am so sorry. 10 years ago Christmas Eve I had my second miscarriage in a row, it was devastating. I wish peace for both of you.


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry TCD.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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unfound
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Jana)) ((TCD)))


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From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK

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