I needed to leave work but couldn't so I hid in the Ladies til I could get it together.
My FWSO has been more than transparent, I now even control his iTunes accounts, he is so not tech wise. I can check anything I want email/phone/computer history. I can track his phone. But honestly I haven't had to in quite awhile.
We had an incident when DBC got through the blocks in place when we moved to a new condo. Didn't know you need to reinstate on the move.
Well I was fooling around on computer and decided to just do a check, haven't done one in months. A new number pops up. SO no biggie except the convos were 20/22/27 minutes long and just started right after Christmas. Which was when she broke through the blocks. I have Spokeo so I check and... yep her name comes up.
Please this is not real, OMG please. That was when I left the room. I do have one friend at work who knows, he went through same thing with crazy ex who was a WW. He calls the number and a young guy answers, friend did good job pretending and got that it FWSO's sons phone on his mother's account. FWSO's AP was his xDBC.
Now there is history with this kid that is not good, he was a pawn used by her to slither back into FWSO's life.
So I call FWSO, say nothing, planning to ignite when I get home. FWSO tells me he needs me to know something - brace yourself - he tells me about the calls. Now he has no idea I know, seems the DS reached out to him, he is no longer under her control. He apologized to his father/FWSO . He tells me about all 3 calls that he wasn't sure if he wanted to mend their relationship with what happened, but he agreed to meet DS for dinner. I gotta say my heart sank, I could feel the door opening yet again. He did tell DS that I would need to be present he would not meet him alone. He would not pick him up at the residence he shares with DBC.
I know he is his son, he needs this relationship but OMG my fear is she will again try to open a door & slither in. So I am guessing I need to set ground rules, but can I really do that with his son. Can I tell him the parameters for the reconciliation?