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imwideawake (original poster member #23386) posted at 5:29 AM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
i emailed back and forth a couple of times with a guy from OLD. We planned to meet last Tuesday and did. He sent me his number in case I ran into any problems and I did the same. I had a lovely time and thought he did too. I waited 2 days and emailed him and told him I'd like to see him again sometime and he echoed the same. He is recently diagnosed with cancer and was finding out on Friday how bad it spread. My xwh had same cancer so it wasn't a shocker for me and I was able to share experiences. (He signed up for OLD on december 4th and learned of cancer on the 10th, had surgery on Christmas Eve and was learning results of ct scan this friday). In email I told him I hope he gets best case scenario and was thinking about him. Gave him my personal email and told him to text, call or email. He responded that he had a good time too, and that it was strange to be thinking of dating under these circumstances, but oh well, it is what it is. Then I didn't hear from him again. Thought he just poofed and I was bummed for the next several days. I just started to let go of my disappointment today and saw an email from him asking if I got his text and hoped I was ok. I responded that I didn't get his text and was wondering how friday went. I got back on OLD and looked at sent emails. I emailed the wrong number. Since turning 40 I can't see well up close and emailing from my phone is a nightmare. I can't believe I have to tell this guy that I sent him the wrong number. The joys and struggles of dating in your 40's.
Together 21 years.
Married 19
Me: BW
Him XWH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now grown
Divorced 12/04/12
absolut ( member #37933) posted at 7:49 AM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
go get an eye exam, or at least buy some cheap readers at the drustore.
movingforward13 ( member #38405) posted at 4:08 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
Good thing he followed up.
It happens.... Now take the communication offline. I hope he is alright.
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Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 4:21 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
I'm glad that you had a connection. I take it as a good sign that he followed up with an email.
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gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 4:53 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
It was an OOPS. These things happen. He should understand that and hopefully eerything will get back on track. If he doesn't take it as a simple accident then that might be a red flag. You gave him your e-mail too so it was not like you were trying to ditch him.
I hope his prognosis comes out good.
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She11ybeanz ( member #27457) posted at 7:56 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
At least he didn't POOF! That's a good thing! And, he followed up!!! Another good thing! Good luck!
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HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
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imwideawake (original poster member #23386) posted at 10:40 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
I do have readers, it's just that i can get away without them and usually forget them. I'm not a purse/accessory type. But I will be wearing them more often now. He responded that he expected something happened and was glad to hear from me. He said he went on a spur of the moment hike on Sunday and wanted to invite me. Still haven't heard results of ct scan. I hoping for a second date soon. The cancer thing doesn't freak me out. I am no longer an over board caretaker and can give support without depleting myself.
Together 21 years.
Married 19
Me: BW
Him XWH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now grown
Divorced 12/04/12
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 11:25 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
sorry, I know this embarrassed you but this just made me laugh. Mistakes happen! To all of us. I'm glad he followed up with an email.
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
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