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User Topic: Gave a guy a wrong number, by mistake
imwideawake
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What?  Posted: 11:29 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i emailed back and forth a couple of times with a guy from OLD. We planned to meet last Tuesday and did. He sent me his number in case I ran into any problems and I did the same. I had a lovely time and thought he did too. I waited 2 days and emailed him and told him I'd like to see him again sometime and he echoed the same. He is recently diagnosed with cancer and was finding out on Friday how bad it spread. My xwh had same cancer so it wasn't a shocker for me and I was able to share experiences. (He signed up for OLD on december 4th and learned of cancer on the 10th, had surgery on Christmas Eve and was learning results of ct scan this friday). In email I told him I hope he gets best case scenario and was thinking about him. Gave him my personal email and told him to text, call or email. He responded that he had a good time too, and that it was strange to be thinking of dating under these circumstances, but oh well, it is what it is. Then I didn't hear from him again. Thought he just poofed and I was bummed for the next several days. I just started to let go of my disappointment today and saw an email from him asking if I got his text and hoped I was ok. I responded that I didn't get his text and was wondering how friday went. I got back on OLD and looked at sent emails. I emailed the wrong number. Since turning 40 I can't see well up close and emailing from my phone is a nightmare. I can't believe I have to tell this guy that I sent him the wrong number. The joys and struggles of dating in your 40's.


Together 21 years.
Married 19
Me: BW, now 45
Him XWH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now 20, 19, & 16
Divorced 12/04/12

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absolut
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Default  Posted: 1:49 AM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

go get an eye exam, or at least buy some cheap readers at the drustore.

Posts: 421 | Registered: Dec 2012
movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good thing he followed up.
It happens.... Now take the communication offline. I hope he is alright.


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 645 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad that you had a connection. I take it as a good sign that he followed up with an email.

One more joy of old age.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7862 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It was an OOPS. These things happen. He should understand that and hopefully eerything will get back on track. If he doesn't take it as a simple accident then that might be a red flag. You gave him your e-mail too so it was not like you were trying to ditch him.

I hope his prognosis comes out good.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3518 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At least he didn't POOF! That's a good thing! And, he followed up!!! Another good thing! Good luck!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
imwideawake
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Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I do have readers, it's just that i can get away without them and usually forget them. I'm not a purse/accessory type. But I will be wearing them more often now. He responded that he expected something happened and was glad to hear from me. He said he went on a spur of the moment hike on Sunday and wanted to invite me. Still haven't heard results of ct scan. I hoping for a second date soon. The cancer thing doesn't freak me out. I am no longer an over board caretaker and can give support without depleting myself.


Together 21 years.
Married 19
Me: BW, now 45
Him XWH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now 20, 19, & 16
Divorced 12/04/12

Posts: 917 | Registered: Mar 2009
better4me
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sorry, I know this embarrassed you but this just made me laugh. Mistakes happen! To all of us. I'm glad he followed up with an email.


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

Posts: 3266 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
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