We divorced in Sept 2013 and DS and I moved out Oct. I still have some belongings at the place so I've made 2 trips over there to get some of it before Christmas. The last trip I had DS hook up the camper (I got it in the D). XWH didn't like that much, as he couldn't get into it a pilfer all the towels, pots, pans, dishes, etc.. I just hooked up and left. Later that week XWH changed all the locks on every door on that property and added padlocks inside the shop building. He is trying to keep me from "taking everything" he says. Whatever..
My mom still lives there in an apt we built for her 5 years ago. Waiting to move her in Feb to an independent living community. Anyway, my girlfriend from HS came to visit 2 weeks ago. Before she was to leave that Sunday we went to visit my mom. While she and my mom were outside talking, I was looking for something in the apt for my mom. XWH comes driving around the apt and glances over and only sees my GF and my mom. I'm in the apt. Well, guess what he's done now. My mom said he put padlocks on the upright freezers inside the shop and the chest freezer in the butcher shop.
He apparently thought since he didn't see me, then I must be "taking everything". Geez louise. I told him that I would let him know when I was coming by to get stuff, but not when I come out to visit my mother.
It wasn't until we divorced that I saw the magnitude of his hoarding. He's been hoarding stuff all his life. He hoards antibiotics and packets of medicines, old work boots, old equipment from his work, even went as far as to bring stuff home and hide the stuff in our barns. It took me 16 years to get him to haul off the old tires...there were 75 tires! It almost killed him. He can't throw anything away....his beer can would make it to the counter in the kitchen, or outside the back door, or on top of a 4-wheeler...never into a trash can. Can't throw wrappers away. Won't drink the last of the milk or ice cream in the carton, because then the carton would have to be thrown away. Keeps all coffee cans and the plastic ones. Keeps all liquor bottles and pickle jars. He has 4 trucks, they are all crammed full of stuff. I could go on and on.
And, he won't clean the house. DS told my mom "maybe I should call Aunt M and she can help clean the house". XWH has't dusted, swept or mopped the house since October. Lord only knows what the bathroom looks like. You know it must be pretty bad when a 15 yr old boy notices a dirty house.
He's not only a two time cheater, but a hoarder to boot. Sad.
Anyone have their ex change so drastically?
[This message edited by whatdoto at 12:51 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)]