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missy1 posted 1/23/2014 14:20 PM

I found out about my husband's affair 1/1.

I believe he is remorseful and we both are in counseling.
My marriage was in a horrible state for a while, his affair was the slap in the face for us to go to couseling.

What were some of the things that comforts you when reconciling. Example: I asked for ALL passwords

KatieG posted 1/23/2014 14:22 PM

Yes all passwords, feeling that he is truly remorseful not just regretful, there are some good definitions of that in the library.

Plus a good one I heard on here, let him see your pain. Don't hide it. Sending you strength.

Morhurt posted 1/23/2014 15:19 PM

I agree with all of the above, also absolutely no contact (after a mutually agreed upon No Contact letter has been sent).

And also being able to discuss the A (affair) anytime you need to with him displaying empathy and compassion for your questions, hurt, pain, rage etc.

I'm so sorry you had to find us but I'm glad you did. Keep reading and posting, it gets easier, I promise.