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♀ 42085
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I found out about my husband's affair 1/1.

I believe he is remorseful and we both are in counseling.
My marriage was in a horrible state for a while, his affair was the slap in the face for us to go to couseling.

What were some of the things that comforts you when reconciling. Example: I asked for ALL passwords

Posts: 11 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: missy1
♀ 41222
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Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes all passwords, feeling that he is truly remorseful not just regretful, there are some good definitions of that in the library.

Plus a good one I heard on here, let him see your pain. Don't hide it. Sending you strength.

DD#1 - 6th Oct 13 - TT
DD#2 - 9th Nov 13 - Full disclosure
DD#3 - 12th May 14 - in R
7 week PA

"Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive" - CS Lewis

Posts: 704 | Registered: Nov 2013
♀ 40166
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with all of the above, also absolutely no contact (after a mutually agreed upon No Contact letter has been sent).

And also being able to discuss the A (affair) anytime you need to with him displaying empathy and compassion for your questions, hurt, pain, rage etc.

I'm so sorry you had to find us but I'm glad you did. Keep reading and posting, it gets easier, I promise.

Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 1111 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
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