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 4better4worse (original poster new member #41736) posted at 1:40 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

That I'm not a psycho wife! There are so many things I could do if I were the kind of person as she, someone who cares little about others and does what they want. It was very easy to google and find out everything about her. I know where she lives, I google earthed her address, know what her house looks like, the layout, know what kind of car she drives, her pursuits outside of work, her email phone number, even that she is registered at a dating website (hmm think she might have done this before?) Her Facebook is wide open for anyone to see as is her husband's. I know more about her than my FWH does.

She is damn lucky that I am a good person and not interested in getting any type of revenge. I could even stand outside her work and wait till she heads home for the day and let her have it, embarrass her publicly on her public site that is attached to one of her businesses. There are really a lot of things I could do, lucky for her I wouldn't. If I messed around with someone's husband, I would be very afraid and fully expect his wife to come after me. I guess it's because I'm the kind of person who forgives (yes even though I think of these things, I would never do them and I have forgiven to the extent I'm able at the moment)

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totallyconfused1 ( member #42030) posted at 1:56 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

I hear you.

I know a lot of shit as well. I did slightly hint to her that perhaps I would have coffee with my gymnastic club friends if she glances my ws way ever again ...(her daughter is in gymnastics.)

Google is your friend.

I was lucky, I only had a # to work with and a first name, but the phone she used was her work phone and she stated the business name on her vm. So that made my csi work easy.

The thing that holds me back from doing that is not wanting the world into my private business. This isn't a huge city - I grew up here and someone always knows someone who knows someone ... kwim? Also, I work in the public eye, so I have to be on my best behaviour.

Me - BS
Him - WS
DD Jan 8 2014

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fourever ( member #30631) posted at 2:39 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

May I join that club? I daydream about it all the time! I have thought about this so much, and she has lost so much already by her own hand. Because she was stalking for a bit, I made sure to plant a very blatant hint to her on my Facebook that was very clear to her but not others, if she dared to interfere again, her husband would see everything I had. She went away.

Sometimes, though, I'd like her to try, just so I could follow through…… I'd like to drive the Karma bus, just once!

In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.

Always, tell the other BS! Always!

"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!

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Chefj9 ( member #38604) posted at 3:43 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

I want to join this club too!! The last contact with OW basically said "make one more peep" and I would file suit against her and out her to everyone from her current BF to her family and friends.

I haven't heard a word for 175 days. I really wish she'd try just one more time so I could follow through. I would love nothing more than to put the pedal to the metal of that bus

ME - BS 50, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 26,16, 15 and 13
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

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Dare2Trust ( member #21183) posted at 5:19 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

I do hope you've told OW's husband about this AFFAIR: OW's husband deserves to know.

Me BS 59
WH 58
Married 19 years
D-Day Nov 3, 2005
Child: Adopted Daughter 21 College Student now

I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.

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Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 8:35 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

I feel the same way. I've left her alone and all the revenge plots have just been played in my head, not one have I or will I act on . almost every one I.know IRL have asked me why I let her off the hook and what they would have done to her.

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 2:37 AM, January 24th (Friday)]

BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

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dindy ( member #38424) posted at 8:49 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

I hear you.

When my ex started his job 4 years ago OW was taking a colleague up for rape (the job my ex was taking over!)

At the time all of the bosses couldn't believe it as they thought she was a cock tease and ex had to go to this guys house on the sly to be trained up by him.

I bet that would crush her if she knew.

I have no doubt she is probably stringing along another MM at her new workplace now.

And she claims to be a lesbian too!

Just a broken little thing with man issues more like.

I too am a better person than she ever will be.

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 4better4worse (original poster new member #41736) posted at 3:16 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

Dare2Trust, yes her H knows-- she told him, I can tell by the things that he puts on FB. I don't know what she told him, I doubt she told him that it was SHE who pursued my husband in a predatory way, and sent him a bazillion texts in a matter of a week and drove to see him after work and spent 239 minutes on the phone in that same amount of time, but I can see that he is making efforts to make things better. I don't think that she is finished though, she will find another man somewhere who needs an ego stroke. If she breaks NC then I will contact her husband myself.

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mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 3:35 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

My favorite fantasy was to hand out leaflets at the front door of their job,

with a photo of her and the following written under it:

"Likes married men. Willing to spread her legs for money or power.

Thinks nothing of trying to destroy a family."

Of course, I would never do that. Am still waiting patiently for God to give her what she deserves.

Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be

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steadfast1973 ( member #24719) posted at 3:40 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

If i ever find out who the prostitute is in real life... I will make pamphlets. She's infecting men with herpes, and sending them home to their wives.

Me- 42- BS Him- 38- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 multi EAs, likely PA, trickle truth, d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute Separated 1/2017
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah"

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karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 3:43 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

I think it goes both ways and your husband is lucky the OW's BS is not a psycho husband...

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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HighSticked ( member #41557) posted at 4:26 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

I'm happy for your self control. I'm in the middle of plotting something but can't bring myself to do it. His poor little reputation is at stake

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Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 6:04 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

My favorite fantasy was to hand out leaflets at the front door of their job,

This was one of mine I wanted to tape her xxx pix all over the entrance to her job too.

BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

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phoenixrise ( member #41745) posted at 6:11 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

I wanted to go to my WH and OW job with a blown up pic of our kids and out him...the leaflet is a nice idea too...it sucks to be the bigger person doesn't it! But thats why you are gold and truly greener like a beautiful lush meadow and she is just a dried up barron piece of dried useless poo

"The grass is greener on the other side because of all the shit that is used to fertilize it"
Him: WH after 8 yrs M...wow to think he held my hand during labor twice
Me: thought I was a cool loving wife
D Day: 7 mos ago RIP soul

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Uhtred ( member #40392) posted at 6:26 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

You are definitely an evolved human being because I would have already flipped that bitches life upside down.

Her husband definitely needs to know. Poor guy has no clue.

Me: BH 38years old DDay 4-29-13Her: FWW 39

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Lovedyoumore ( member #35593) posted at 7:18 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

I could absolutely ruin her life. I know where enough of her skeletons are hidden to make a huge impact on her life. I know who her family is, who her friends are, the husbands and more importantly, the wives who make up her business contacts, and who she has ripped off. I know where she hides her pot and that she could not pass a drug screen while she requests that they be administered to others. I know she used her counseling knowledge learned at seminary to screw with my H's head in a dark hour of his life. I know that while she presented herself as a member of the clergy, and presided at the Eucharist, she was f***ing my H. I have texts and emails that could rip apart her crappy life. Unfortunately, she could turn this on my H as well. She has shown us enough crazy after DDay that I am scared of her and I do not need her to come back around.

I can dream and that dream involves a giant billboard on the interstate near her house. I even priced it for a month. Her giant pig face with a banner reading: Need a man. Married? Never a problem. Call 555-555-5555

Me 50's
WH 50's
Married 30+ years
2 young adult children
OW single 20 years younger
Together trying to R

Freedom's just another word for nothin' left to lose

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Secrets Kept ( member #40630) posted at 10:37 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

Sadly Uhtred.....I am with you. And just know "4better4worse" & many of you other responders.....you guys are bigger people than myself cuz I couldn't hold back, so kudos to you all for your control.

Uhtred......I know your story & have often been surprised there weren't more like it here on SI. (BTW....I was rooting for you the whole time reading your 1st post!! Am surprised in this day & age that more people don't flip & kick some major asses after Ddays. And the fact that "old man" never called the police after your beating, to me shows he knows he did wrong & knew he deserved it. I mean really...you just don't fuck around in other people's marriages & not expect retaliation today....or one would think at least.

I am just too vindictive & would make their lives as hellish as I absolutely could while being within the legal boundaries. Is that right.....probably not, but neither is infidelity & they didn't care while that was going down, so why would I???? Just my opinion though.

"All this time I was finding myself & I didn't know I was lost"

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