I'm married of 15 years, have 6 children to my husband, the youngest 5 weeks old.
I believe he is cheating. He works 25 min from home yet it's been taking over 2.5 hours to get home... And he gets home within 10 minutes each day... Although his reasons for being late are varied each day... From traffic to having a cuppa to training. He works night, 12 hour shifts and by law is not allowed to go over 12 hours. He has this male colleague he has started visiting after work, for 3-4 hours at a time. He never talks about this friend.
His phone is always on silent, hides it when I walk in, cracks it if kids touch it, is always in his pocket. Has a new Facebook (female)friend whom just went on hol to Bali. Interestingly while she was away everything was fantastic....... Last week he shows me a gift he got from a workmate... (After getting home 3 hours late) then I ask oh who...he doesn't say then 5 min later announces a name (mans) which he clearly made up.
He was getting home 3 hours late every day for a week when I asked why are you late he gave me excuses then said I'm not having an affair if that's what you think.....
Well I didn't but after the past week ( since I found out about the friend) I am pretty sure.
I have found out where she lives, should I go there when I think he's there (or am I going to be crazy woman)
I want to confront him but think he'll deny it... If I confront him with proof there's no denying it
He is not late home once or twice a week now (Saturday being one of the days)
I work but am currently on leave and don't know how I will support myself if he leaves
BS married 29 years
DD July 7 2014
I installed life 360 on both of our phones and it shows where her phone is pretty darn accurate... I checked her phone the morning of DD and it was off, I turned it on and boom there were the chats on words with friends from her AP.....
Good luck and stay vigilant as he is definitely cheating on you one way or another with coming home late having a female friends on Facebook that is not friends with you, getting gifts, lying to you....
Sorry for your pain and to find you here but this is a great place to get some great advice and to have your deepest questions answered..
*Finding my strength*
And just fyi....
he gave me excuses then said I'm not having an affair if that's what you think.....
Oh, Yes. He did. More than one, in fact.
Your husband answered a question that wasn't asked, with no prompting. He's definitely up to *no good*.
Keep your mouth shut and GPS his car.
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
I would caution at revealing too much of what you know at this stage though, especially phone/computer stuff.
Ask me how I know to do that