You can call me NIK
((((Lost and sister))))
I am going through this as well, honey. I have to keep reminding myself that she is not me. Her reactions and decisions may be very different than mine. And that's ok.
The harder aspect for me is her H. I have so much anger towards him right now, and I'm fairly confident some of that is transfer from my own experience. Just as she is not me, her H is not wasband. That one requires a whole lot of mindfulness for me.
Sending you strength and comfort, honey. And keeping your sister in my thoughts.
"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."