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Lostinthismess posted 1/23/2014 20:39 PM

My older sister just found out her husband has been cheating for years with multiple ow. One of the ow sent her a message telling her to tell her husband to leave her alone. She didn't know he was married. She outed all his secrets. I'm heartbroken for her. I'm reliving dday. My little sister sent me a message saying my husband was their last hope that decent guys do exist my older sister knows of my husbands affair my little sister doesn't. I don't know how or if I will be able to keep it a secret any longer and that stresses me out too. Why? Why her too?? Ugg

SoVeryTired5 posted 1/23/2014 20:44 PM

Oh I am so sorry for you and your sister. My sister is one of two people who know the truth about my WH. I can't even begin to imagine her feeling this kind of pain along with me.

I'm thinking about the two of you tonight.

((Lostinthismess))

LosferWords posted 1/23/2014 23:30 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this.

(((Lostinthismess and sister)))

Skan posted 1/24/2014 17:05 PM

I am so very sorry. I can well imagine that you're a mass of conflicting emotions. (((hugs))) I hope that your sister can find her way here for support.

Lostinthismess posted 1/24/2014 17:14 PM

Thank you all. It just sucks. That's as eloquent as I can be.

nowiknow23 posted 1/24/2014 17:28 PM

((((Lost and sister))))

I am going through this as well, honey. I have to keep reminding myself that she is not me. Her reactions and decisions may be very different than mine. And that's ok.

The harder aspect for me is her H. I have so much anger towards him right now, and I'm fairly confident some of that is transfer from my own experience. Just as she is not me, her H is not wasband. That one requires a whole lot of mindfulness for me.

Sending you strength and comfort, honey. And keeping your sister in my thoughts.

Lostinthismess posted 1/24/2014 17:40 PM

Thanks NIK, I'm glad I can help her but it sucks I can help her too. Our stories are playing out very different, it's been easy to separate my own feelings so far.