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MUFan posted 1/24/2014 10:48 AM

One year ago today my FWH slept with his AP. It was a one time thing and I know the details. He confessed 2 days later.
Its been a hard year besides the A. I lost my job, then my grandfather, then he lost his job. We spent a month unemployed. Luckily both of us are back to work now. When everything started to look up, our oldest daughter found out about the affair.
Today we communicate better than we have ever. We love each other and demonstrate it daily. I triggered some this morning and probably will through the weekend.
Monday I have to go to the city where he had his ONS for work...not ideal timing and I'm having panic attacks looking up information about places to eat, etc. Luckily not staying at the same hotel.
He's not who he was then. He's a more authentic version of himself. No more hiding his more making himself feel better and important with titles and collecting friends. I truly feel that the kids and I come first. He's kept it up for a year and although he slips sometimes into selfishness, he snaps out of it when I call him on it. He understands that my complaints about our relationship were valid throughout the years and is doing his best to rectify it.
I'm just rambling right now...but I hope it helps those that are new into R. The first months were hell and there maybe more hell to come but when it does, I know I can survive.

catlover50 posted 1/24/2014 11:38 AM

Good for you both! Good luck this weekend!

0115 posted 1/24/2014 11:48 AM

You've come a long way in a short time. Be very proud of yourselves! Good luck this weekend. Go through it, not around it. Hopefully it won't hurt nearly as bad and maybe next year not at all.

LA44 posted 1/24/2014 11:50 AM

Lots of good things in your post MUfan. Here's to better days.


Skan posted 1/24/2014 18:18 PM

I hope that you're able to take back that city. I'm so happy for you and for your family!

blakesteele posted 1/24/2014 20:32 PM


I remember seeing your first post.....a year goes by quickly....lots of pain in that year, but you are processing and both are growing....I see it in your post.

Way to Go!!!!

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