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My twin DD's have a friend at school whose father was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer about this time last year.
He deteriorated after this new year started and I just found out he passed away last night.

I can't help thinking that my girls have lost their father as well.
They have lost their father to selfishness and his desire to "be happy".

I lost my father when he turned his back on his children more that 10 years ago when he took on a new and what he thought was a more sympathetic family. (Long story. I haven't seen or spoken to him in about 12 years.)

I am in tears for my girls' friend, my girls and me.

It's just not fair.

((((DDs' friend))))
((((Lola & DDs))))

Hugs Lola. It sucks, I know. I'm here if you need someone to get it all out to.

Brother, I am right there with you. I am angry at how unfair it all is.

POS OM is with his family, My STBX is with our kids.

I didn't commit adultery and I am the one on the outside looking in.

All we can do is love them and have faith.

Is he not involved with your daughters?

Not really.
A total of 5 overnights last year and a whopping 3% visitation. I documented.
His DOW fiancée lives in Europe so he travels there frequently.
He did not want a set visitation schedule in order to be free to travel.
His choice.

Thanks DM.
I had to tell them the news when I got home from work and I started to cry. They were not upset, only concerned that I was upset.
My DD1 hugged me and said "it's ok mommy".
She had to console me. I really didn't want her to have to do that.
I sucked it up pretty quickly and told them their friend would need them now more than ever.
I'm not sure they fully understand the loss of someone this close. It's very hard because I think about the loss of my mom almost 20 years ago.