OW #1 (the one he was cheating with the longest) has made herself a LinkedIn account and has twice now purposely shown herself on WH's "people who have viewed your profile" feed. She is not a professional - indeed, her LinkedIn profile has her listed as a stay-at-home mom. No reason whatsoever to be on a professional social media site where professional connections are supposed to be made, not social chatter and illicit behavior. And certainly no reason to be seeking my WH, as their "career paths" would have no reason to cross in the workplace. It's all to get my WH's attention.
Since DDay, this despicable woman has gotten married to the man she was cheating on with my WH and has had a child. DDay, as you can see on my sig line, was about 2 years ago.
This repugnant person has made her profile on LinkedIn using her maiden name - the one my husband would most easily recognize her by. It is obvious she is fishing for him to respond to her, as it is easy enough on LinkedIn to hide your identity.
The first time she popped up on there, it was my WH who alerted me to it (good on him). Now, I've seen her do it a second time, and I'm about done with the shenanigans.
I strongly desire to tell this ill woman's husband what she is up to, as well as what she has been all about for the past 7 years. This nasty OW was carrying on with my WH during the time she met, "fell in love with", and got engaged to this man. I never contacted him back then. I didn't know how to speak to him - what to tell him - at the time. I was new to all this.
I'm a veteran now. I know exactly what I would tell him.
Should I contact him? Should I alert him to his WW's atrocious and low-rent behavior?
My WH has FORBADE me to contact this man, he says to protect our family from what this man's anger at being made a fool by both of them may bring down upon us. I do not suspect my WH of seeking this gross woman out - he was, after all, the one who told me she was on LinkedIn checking out his profile in the first place - but his demand that I let it alone boils under my skin.
I believe this man, this victim, should be made aware, but how best to contact him? By registered letter to his work? They live half a country away now (his work moved him and his vile liar of a wife far away), so I could never see him in person to tell him. But if I send an email, I'd never know whether he received it, or whether he reads it.
What would you do?
Me: BS, early 40s/ Him: WS, mid 40s
Married 2004, DD9
DDay#1(Dec 2011): 3 LTAs over at least 5 years
DDay#2 (Oct 2015): cheated while separated, plus more LTAs came out from before DDay#1. Body (booty?) count currently at 8.