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D-Day was back in the beginning of August and I had to continue on with life and work. I know I was in a haze not concentrating on anything else but the A. Work was particularly hard. I'm now realizing just how hard it was to concentrate and do my job back then. Things are coming up, mistakes, things falling through the cracks. It's horrible! I'm a female in a VERY male dominated industry so I already have to jump some hurdles and feel like I have to be perfect at my job. The perfection is out the window and I feel just terrible. I feel like no apologizing will be enough on the work front.

Things are going really well for me but this week at work has been a huge pain in the a** because of 5-6 months ago!

I know this would be hard, but consider telling your employers about what you've gone through. Assure them that you are back on your game now, and will fix these mistakes as you find them.

You don't want to risk losing your job over this.

I called my boss after dday and told her. She told my manager (a male, fwiw).

They were wonderful. I think my boss had been a BS before. My manager hurt for me.

It's amazing how many people can relate (just look around here)

Support and BTDT is everywhere! reaching out isn't such a bad thing.

(((hugs)))

If I were you I'd definitely contact HR if you have that available to you. My situation was different when I found out. I had an injury to my hand and had to let the boss know what was going on.

I'm 9 months in and still find it extremely difficult to concentrate on my job. I'm hoping things will get better with time.

Thanks for the responses.
Fortunately my boss knew I was going through personal stuff back then and he is very understanding and won't lose my job. He doesn't know the details of my personal issues and for now I'd rather keep it that way.

He is not the one that is making me feel bad either, it is me. I hate making mistakes and I just don't want to get into a downward spiral of thinking I'm not good enough again.