From the I can relate forum, a BS is asking how to trust his WW again (poor thing!), and there's a WW with a pretty nasty attitude telling him things like trust is all on the BS, and things like "If you want access to all devices, then your WS can agree or not."
My exWW had this attitude for months. The affair put me on the edge and I started the divorce process, but actually put two delays on to see if she was serious about trying to R. This attitude was the exact attitude she had about the whole thing. She told MC "I want to see if there's a marriage left for me", and refused to remove him from FB, and refused to give access to cell phone and emails.
This is why I think so many R's fail miserably, and it's so hard to get over cheating. When the wayward will do nothing to help rebuild trust, and instead flashes this snarky snotty attitude that they don't have to do anything to help build trust and they don't need to help the BS, that its all on the BS, which is what I've said all along, that most R's means the work is done by the BS and WS is cake eating and along for the ride, then I have little sympathy for waywards and their broken, better than anyone, sleep with who I want, hurt who I want, and torture my family when I want attitude. I know there's remorseful waywards who honestly think their choices are horrifying, but I think many that we see on SI are the exception. I think there's far more like this one out there, and from what I've seen in my own social circles, the cheaters rarely appear to have missed a beat. They cheat, they laugh about it, they move on, they have no concern for their ex or their families.
Really? It's up to the WS to grant access to private electronic devices? Then I guess it's up to the BS to kick their a%% to the curb for continuing to be a self serving jacka&&.
I define me! I don't just survive, I thrive!!
Me: fBH 46
Her: exWW 42
DDay: Nov 1, 2012
Divorced: September 17, 2013