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My wh is a narcissist sociopath. I am wife 3 that has gone through this with him, so he's not changing. He would get physical each time I would discover his inappropriate ways, then scream in my face while I cried, calling me a princess. Never showed remorse and Never apologized. He always wanted it swept under the rug and never brought up. He was extremely good too and knew how to keep me strung along. We ended for the 10th+ time on Christmas Eve. He always knew what to do to get me back, promised counseling, promised he was working on himself, or made me feel bad for HIM. Something just clicked this time. I woke up and see him for what he is.

My parents were just at a benefit of a friend with cancer and a few of WH's co workers were there. One of them asked my parents if we were divorcing. My mom said "It's not her, it's him." They all gathered around my parents and told them that no one at work can stand him, that he's an arrogant a**!! They said he has only been to work maybe 3-4 times in the last few weeks. In that time he has:

-Fallen asleep at their big company meeting in front of the CEO
-Went in the ditch twice and ran into a snowbank, ruining 2 company cars.
-Yelled at co workers. Several employees have complained to the CEO stating they will not work with him.

Apparently they have a pot going at work as to how long he'll make it. That's his big shot six figure job he throws in my face while he CONSTANTLY belittles my job. I've been offered better jobs, but he always threw a fit, not wanting me to work with men.

I read somewhere that ignoring a narcissist and acting like they don't exist will make them crazy. They need to be in control, need constant supply and attention. I don't want a penny from him, so I hope he does lose his job. He has a major prescription drug problem, as well, which may be the cause of his car accidents. Who knows, maybe he's up all night with ow or new ow. Either way, he's on a downward spiral.

I have a long road ahead of me as I've heard divorcing this type of man is hell, but I'm just glad to see others don't think much of him. He's not so high and mighty after all.

[This message edited by allyk2014 at 11:57 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)]

no it's not bad! Our STBX's sound similar. So much abuse and then suddenly "woe is me" when we finally say enough is enough. They deserve to get consqeuences, and that's what he's experiencing now.

Yes. Same here. Although I never realized it to be narcissism. He always says I must have someone else... Asking me if he likes it when I.... (Fill in your favorite sexual act). There is no one. I don't have time for it. Sheesh. Who would take care of the kids?!? Anyway you are in good company...sympathetic company for sure. And you are admirable for standing up to him!!!! I am anxious for my day.... My day when I can look at him and say "bye bye baby. I'm not your ragdoll doormat anymore." I'm growing my backbone...

(((Allyk2014)))

I'm sorry, allyk2014, that you have to deal with this. And, NO, it is NOT bad that it made your day. You are dealing with it well under the circumstances.

Xpos is borderline, according to two psychologists, so I think I know how it goes. Somewhat, at least.

I haven't spoken with him in almost two years, and that's not long enough! He calls me names and tells me that I am a bigger liar than he is whenever he sees me. D was very difficult. And he has sued me twice since the D, asking the judge to force me to give him money, saying I am a liar and in contempt of court. The judge denied both suits. But I could sue him because HE is in contempt of court again right now!

He told me he would make the D cost me as much as possible and that he would see me "put out of the house with nothing".

Now, since I don't answer my home phone when he calls and have changed my cell number, he sends me stupid stuff in the mail. I guess that's to make sure I don't forget him...!?