My wh is a narcissist sociopath. I am wife 3 that has gone through this with him, so he's not changing. He would get physical each time I would discover his inappropriate ways, then scream in my face while I cried, calling me a princess. Never showed remorse and Never apologized. He always wanted it swept under the rug and never brought up. He was extremely good too and knew how to keep me strung along. We ended for the 10th+ time on Christmas Eve. He always knew what to do to get me back, promised counseling, promised he was working on himself, or made me feel bad for HIM. Something just clicked this time. I woke up and see him for what he is.
My parents were just at a benefit of a friend with cancer and a few of WH's co workers were there. One of them asked my parents if we were divorcing. My mom said "It's not her, it's him." They all gathered around my parents and told them that no one at work can stand him, that he's an arrogant a**!! They said he has only been to work maybe 3-4 times in the last few weeks. In that time he has:
-Fallen asleep at their big company meeting in front of the CEO
-Went in the ditch twice and ran into a snowbank, ruining 2 company cars.
-Yelled at co workers. Several employees have complained to the CEO stating they will not work with him.
Apparently they have a pot going at work as to how long he'll make it. That's his big shot six figure job he throws in my face while he CONSTANTLY belittles my job. I've been offered better jobs, but he always threw a fit, not wanting me to work with men.
I read somewhere that ignoring a narcissist and acting like they don't exist will make them crazy. They need to be in control, need constant supply and attention. I don't want a penny from him, so I hope he does lose his job. He has a major prescription drug problem, as well, which may be the cause of his car accidents. Who knows, maybe he's up all night with ow or new ow. Either way, he's on a downward spiral.
I have a long road ahead of me as I've heard divorcing this type of man is hell, but I'm just glad to see others don't think much of him. He's not so high and mighty after all.