I posted about a year ago about how my wife was having an affair and like many didn't know what to do. The affair lasted from 9/2012 until 7/2013. All of you gave me great advice and I appreciated it. It finally ended after I contacted his wife to alert her as to what was happening and then him as well just to tell him to fuck off. She ended it for him but my wife was Livid/Pissed, etc. I actually didn't care. She felt I broke "her" trust by doing that...and that I was only thinking of myself...can you believe it!
Anyway after living in hell for the past year or so...we finally started couples counseling in late November of 2013. Things seemed to be improving...though our counselor kept saying we shouldn't discuss the affair because it happened in the past. Needless to say after 4 sessions I demanded we find a different counselor.
Anyway...over past 2 months...baby steps forward. We both started new Jobs on 1/2/2014. My job is going well. Over the past 2.5 weeks there has been a polar vortex (sorry couldn't resist) that has come upon our marriage again. The communicating, reconnecting, being open, all but disappeared.
In her first 2 weeks, she had to go to Atlanta for 2 nights for some quarterly business meeting and then to Vegas the following week for 5 nights for sales kickoff training. Her phone is still under my name so I did something I had not done in months. I logged in and saw that starting 2 days after the Atlanta trip, she started texting a co-worker. Then the calls started...then Vegas happened...over 300 text in 5 days there together...then after Vegas the hour long phone calls started every day while I was at work.
Sick to my stomach...a search of her computer shows searches on new sex moves, ways to please a man, can affair lead to real relationships and the kicker- Can I cross state lines with a child without my spouse knowing/approving....Clearly we are now in a whole different ball game. It appears she wants to go visit her new boyfriend in FL and has looked at plane tickets and things to do in the city in which he lives. It no longer is about my life in hell, she is now messing with our 8 year old child who I love dearly and who I have been the primary caregiver for over the past 2 years while she was traveling all the time.
What do I do? I'm going to call my attorney on Monday but am I able to file an injunction to prevent her from traveling with her to a fricken new guy she just met. My hopes for saving our marriage are clearly over and now need to face reality of the hell of divorce over the next year...any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks!
*Finding my strength*
My stepdaughters mom took her out of state while he was at work. Flew "home" and didn't return. He had to fight to get her back. (Yes this is the same man that is now my WH). Technically a parent has a legal right to take their child anywhere they go. As long as there are no court orders against it. I was told this when fighting for custody of the step daughter years ago.
Good luck. And for the record - what an irresponsible parent to take a young child anywhere near a sexual relationship not her father or parents spouse!!! Omg. It makes my skin crawl......
Go for full physical custody. Bring every shred of evidence with you. Sorry your stbxww has her head so far up her arse.
Lawyer up, that sounds like a solid action.
Me BS (34) WW (29) Married 2 years 2y old Daughter D-Day 05 Nov 13
Finally, start gathering everything you have that shows you have been your child's primary caretaker for the past two years. You may be in a situation to seek preliminary orders granting you primary custody.
