Today the Court website was updated and shows his charges. One count Attempted Solicitation of a Child - Aggrevated Criminal Sexual Abuse, one count Attempted Grooming, and one count Attempted Traveling to Meet a Minor. According to STBXH they were filed at misdemeanors, but according to the state's website, they can all be upped to felonies. He is soooo screwed!
Because of the nature of his crimes, I can't/won't spread this on FB or in RL. My kids could be hurt by that. But here I can share with people who understand the mixed emotions of horror, disgust, and satisfaction.
To my way of thinking, he's being punished for the wrong act. He never met the minor, but he had a LT PA with my XBFF. Now that deserves prosecution. But that's not the way the world works. So I'll take what I can get.
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
D-Day, June 10, 2012
I'm sorry this is polluting your life.
And please, please, please, never bail him out or help him in any way ever again.
I will not bail him out again! My folks have already pointed out that they are done with him. I realized I'm still foggy about STBXH when I spoke with his brother who said "This had better be about the same incident as last time." It didn't even occur to me that it could be another attempt to solicit.
So STBXH has paid us back the bail money. I have notified my lawyer. Now we are waiting for STBXH to plead or be found guilty to file for full legal custody. Reading the actual charges and their definitions is like reading the Divorce filing for the first time. You know what its going to say, but its still a punch in the gut.
Thank you for the gentle 2x4s. I needed them.
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
So now you're starting to realise it's true, deep down. It's going to hurt a lot. Please don't beat yourself up for not seeing it and for not really believing it deep down until now. Who would want to believe that anyone they know is capable of this, let alone someone they love? I'm hoping you're in IC?
I hope he didn't do anything to your DD. As horrible as it is, you do need to get her checked out.
So many ((hugs)) to you.
Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him