I have never tried OLD, and I am not sure I will.
However, I have a question for the ladies (or men can share their experiences).
With regard to the intent line, I am not sure any one really captures what my intent would be. I guess initially it's probably accurate to select, "looking to date but nothing serious," or whatever variation a site might use, in that I am not intending to jump in a relationship with just anyone. I still have a lot of healing to do, and I would not want to do that - for my sake, and any woman's as well. But, deep down I am a one woman kind of guy and I certainly want a meaningful relationship at some point with the right woman.
The thing is, "just wanting to date" sounds like it translates into "looking for booty calls." That's damn sure not what I want, for a number of reasons -- not the least of which is I somehow dodged the STD bullet with my STBXW.
I know some of this can be clarified in the profile, but I think there is only so much you can say without sounding like irreparable damaged goods.
And, of course, there is the matter of what kind of women are you going to "attract" with a given intent. If their intent is similar to mine, then fine. But if the ones who are okay with "just dating" are hooking up with a different random man each week I am not interested. Or, if the ones who are looking for a relationship are ready to set up house with the first halfway decent guy that comes along then I don't want that either.
(BTW, I realize that it's not as easy signing on and having floods of women filling your in box).
[This message edited by Later at 1:44 PM, January 25th (Saturday)]