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Wayward Side :
Is it as easy to commit a Pa as it is as Oea?

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 rekindle (original poster member #42184) posted at 5:58 AM on Sunday, January 26th, 2014

My take: My OEA involved what I wanted the OM to see, including manipulated photos (appealing angles, photoshop, etc). I could not do a PA because I have severe body image issues and could not achieve the required level of emotional intimacy with anyone else.

Opposite side: because I had an OEA and exchanged pictures of myself, I would easily engage in a PA. Especially if it were a coworker who I had known for years.

So, other WS who have also committed OEAs, what is your take on this?

Me, WW
Him, BH
2 DDs
Together 9 yrs, married 4
Flirting/Boundary Breaking/Cheating for 8 years, OEA Fall 09-Feb 10 with flirty friend from 2007/2008, lied and rugswept until TT 12/13-02/14.

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kmom2662 ( member #41494) posted at 2:07 PM on Sunday, January 26th, 2014

For me the OEA was a way to connect without being seen in person; an ego boost because of feeling unattractive and aging. I wanted things kept at a distance for that reason-- would never have wanted to meet or even exchange pictures. The faceless fantasy aspect was what I needed.

Me-- WW, 49
Him-- BH, 53 (bobf)
Married 22 years
OEA, chat/email with multiple people over an 8 week period, 8/2013-10/4/2013
D-day 10/4/13
Working on reconciliation

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