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Is it as easy to commit a Pa as it is as Oea?
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rekindle posted 1/25/2014 23:58 PM
My take: My OEA involved what I wanted the OM to see, including manipulated photos (appealing angles, photoshop, etc). I could not do a PA because I have severe body image issues and could not achieve the required level of emotional intimacy with anyone else.
Opposite side: because I had an OEA and exchanged pictures of myself, I would easily engage in a PA. Especially if it were a coworker who I had known for years.
So, other WS who have also committed OEAs, what is your take on this?
kmom2662 posted 1/26/2014 08:07 AM
For me the OEA was a way to connect without being seen in person; an ego boost because of feeling unattractive and aging. I wanted things kept at a distance for that reason-- would never have wanted to meet or even exchange pictures. The faceless fantasy aspect was what I needed.