If you may remember, I went back to court earlier this month and had CS increased to reflect the current salaries of myself, ex and what is paid in child care. CS doubled. I knew that ex wouldn't be happy, and I got my first wind of it yesterday when he started forwarding me emails (that I already get) regarding fees for soccer and girl scouts. I responded w thanks, already on the list, did you want to discuss how to split these?
Knowing full well that was not his point. In reality, what he contributed outside of CS previously only a tiny fraction of the total amount of extracurricular $$$ for the kids. The amount CS went up each month is more than he contributed all last calendar year, perhaps total since the div. I have never challenged him on it since the very beginning.
Additionally, he is trying to dictate the kids schedule again. He did ask politely a couple of weeks ago about switching the week days for his travel and I met him halfway. Since then he has started telling me when he could and could not take the kids and last week I had to change plans that I have been anticipating for a long time because of kids off school and ex needing to fly out. I get that this is what parents do, but he told me I needed to do this, didn't ask.
I have ALWAYS held my tongue, gone by the "what would a judge say" if he saw my emails. But I am done. He is a shit. I don't want to try any more. It has been 4 fucking years since he left. HE LEFT, not me.
And yes, I have documented everything. I have spreadsheets with all the kids expenses over the years. What I contributed, what he contributes. It is a joke.
I am thinking about laying out my boundaries and explaining what CS covers one last time. If he cannot treat me civilly, then we revert back to what the div decree states as it benefits me anyway. I rarely ask for help w kids' schedule as it is and I really will never have to ask as the kids are getting older and my mom (who is local) will be retiring this spring.
I know these are two issues. Do I let the money go? I was anticipating his dick move anyway. But I do want him to know that I know he is a dick, IYKWIM.