My BH and I have two different major love languages. His is physical touch, mine is words of affirmation, and also acts of service.
We also have very different sex drives....his is very active, and he enjoys role playing and spicing it up more than I do. I love having sex with him, but don't desire it as often as he does and would be just as happy laying naked next to each other as having sex.
Many of our arguments about sex are him comparing our sex life now to our sex life when we first started dating, which was eleven years ago. It's not as adventurous and frequent as it was then, which I think is normal for every (or at least most) couples.
I also have narcolepsy, which I was diagnosed with six years into our relationship. I think the meds I take for it may be part of the reason for my decreased interest, but I also think life itself plays a role. At the end of the day once the house has been clean and our daughter has been put to bed, I have no energy left and unfortunately usually fall asleep on the couch shortly after sitting down for the night, which leaves very little time for us to spend together.
My BH has also recently started working as a correction officer in a nearby prison, and is also emotionally and physically tired at the end of the day, and has actually started to go to bed before me some nights.
So I guess I am rambling....but the point of this is how do other couples work on this? How do you make sure each partner's needs are being met, especially when dealing with all the extra every day things in life?
[This message edited by Alyssamd24 at 2:28 PM, January 26th (Sunday)]